Would you like to transition into being a stay at home mom? Or do you want to go back to work after you have your baby? Perhaps you think it is a mindless job to be a stay home mother. While the world might tell you that staying home is a waste of time, I would tell you differently.
Being a stay at home mom is one of the most rewarding things you can do as a parent.
As a stay home mother, you have the privilege of teaching your children things they may not get anywhere else. More importantly, you can reinforce their significance as a child of God and build a spiritual foundation from the beginning.
If you are interested in being a stay at home mom, keep reading. Before we do that, let’s talk about what a stay-at-home mom does during the day so you know what to expect if you choose this path.
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Is It Easier to Be a Stay-at-Home Mom?
Working moms vs. stay-at-home moms–that’s a battle I am not getting into. They are both hard. But if you are a stay-at-home mom, be prepared to wear many hats. On any given day you are the cook, chauffeur, housekeeper, accountant, nurse, counselor, teacher, nurturer and so much more.
It is a demanding job that isn’t always validated by those in the working world, yet it is the most consuming job as it never stops. You are on call 24/7. If you are under the impression that you are going to be sitting around all day, you are sadly mistaken.
Staying at home all day with kids is exhausting not only physically but emotionally. In fact, I have heard some women say they want to go back to work so they can get away from all the chaos and neediness.
It is good to have realistic expectations before you quit your job. You will never work harder than when you stay at home.
Although it is consuming, it is also rewarding. Now let’s check out some of the benefits of being a stay home mom.
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3 Incredible Reasons For Being a Stay at Home Mom
There are three benefits of being a stay home mom that you need to consider before you go back to work after having a baby. It is not an easy decision to make, but perhaps once you consider the pros and cons, it will help you know what is the best thing for your family.
1. The family functions more smoothly
One of the benefits of being a stay home mom is that your home runs more smoothly when you are there all day. There is more time to get the cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc. done.
When you are split between home and work there never seems to be enough time to do anything well. Additionally, it feels like you are pulled in both directions trying to please the family and your boss, but no one is happy.
When you stay home, you can implement a schedule to help you stay organized. I had a morning routine that set me up for success the whole day. I highly recommend it.
2. Bonding and development with your kids
Another benefit of being a stay home mom is that it allows you to bond with your child and encourage early development. Contrary to popular beliefs, many things are happening in those first few years of life.
Babies know when change happens, they understand loud noises, and they feel all sorts of emotions. They are not mindless blobs cooing and gurgling. In fact, they can feel tension through the mother and know when they are not wanted.
Science Daily lists all sorts of things that happen when children do not have a loving and stable environment in their formative years.
There is more of a chance for depression, health issues, and behavior issues when they are not bonded to their mother. (I do realize a daycare can be a stable and loving alternative.)
Furthermore, when things go awry with an adult, psychologists always begin with childhood to get a complete diagnosis. Those early years are highly impressionable. As parents, we need to realize how important they are.
Capitalize on this time by reading out loud, rocking, snuggling, and talking to your baby or young child. This is your chance to bond.
3. Reinforce biblical values with your kids
The third benefit of being a stay home mom is that it allows you to reinforce biblical values daily. I taught my kids things no one else would have time to teach.
I read the Bible to them every day, watched programs that talked about God, and sang songs that reinforced the Bible. Furthermore, I was there to tell them over and over how much I loved them and how much God loved them.
I also took the time to discipline my kids when they were not acting the way God would want them to act. I was able to take advantage of teachable moments and show them what God says about lying, hitting, etc. This can be done with other caregivers, but it is more meaningful when mom does it.
Proverbs 22:6. “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.”
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Is Being a Stay at Home Mom Rewarding?
Not everyone has the privilege or sanity to be a stay home mom, but it is rewarding if you have the choice. Looking back, I relish the times I had with my kids. I have no regrets.
I bonded with my kids in a way no one else ever would. Although I wasn’t always a perfect mom, I loved my kids in a way only a mom would love.
For those of you who have chosen another source of childcare other than yourself, I am glad that you have come to that decision on what is best for your family.
My comments are simply to tell about the benefits of being a stay at home mom. And be honest about the sacrifices. Often, it means putting a career on hold and adjusting to the feeling of isolation. It can be shocking.
I hope you will consider the benefits of being a stay at home mom and pray about what God wants you to do. Think about how your choices will affect your family long term. More money doesn’t always mean more happiness.
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