Why wait until marriage to have sex? That is the question many teens are asking. Sadly, parents are not answering this question in a biblical way. Most parents have opted for the “safe sex” talk instead of going for abstinence.
They figure their kids are going to do it, so it is better to use protection than teach morals. Morals are out-dated and inconvenient.
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Furthermore, many parents are too busy working, attending sports events, and, frankly, too tired to reinforce something they may or may not believe themselves.
A long talk about sex, a condom, or birth control pills is quicker and gets the job done.
While I agree conversations about safe sex are warranted these days, your kids aren’t always listening. Many times they still don’t use birth control in the heat of the moment.
In fact, the actual statistic is 43%.
Yep, 43% of teens didn’t use contraception the last time they had sex.
Pretty stupid, huh?
Don’t fool yourself. Your safe sex talk isn’t getting through to your teen. I can hear you right now saying, “No my teen.” Think again.
So what do you do? Should you just give up?
Fight against the culture and do the right thing. It is time to go back to the truth. Tell your teen the whole truth. God’s truth.
And then ask the Holy Spirit to help you reinforce this truth over time in meaningful ways.
Most of all, be approachable with your kids. It’s a conversation that is going to go on for a long time. Hopefully, until marriage.
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What Does the Bible Say About Waiting?
What does the Bible say about sex? Clearly, it says to wait until marriage. This makes teaching abstinence next to impossible if you don’t believe in the Bible. Parents can’t give a reason for waiting until marriage without going back to faith. Many parents don’t know the Bible or even believe the Bible to be true.
Because of this, there are no beliefs or values to pass down to their children. Parents don’t realize they are missing the truth. The truth about premarital sex. The kind of truth that never changes. The truth is teens and young adults should wait until marriage to have sex because it is the right thing to do. More importantly, God commands it.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body’s a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”
What Are Our Kids Learning About Sex?
If nothing other than birth control is taught at home, then what are our kids learning? If you watch TV, go to the movies, or get online, you know what our kids are learning. It’s not to wait until marriage, that’s for sure!
They are learning that sex doesn’t have consequences (which is a lie). If it feels right, and you are old enough, then experiment. And what age is “old enough.”
Kids are told nothing bad is going to happen. It always works out in movies, TV, and social media. In fact, it is glamorized.
After the TV or movie is turned off, and the computer is shut down, the harsh reality is hitting our teens and young adults. And the reality is tragic.
The facts show premarital sex is harming, if not destroying, our kids. Many of you think this won’t happen to your child someday, yet these statistics show differently. It’s time to start telling your kids to wait until marriage.
What Are the Facts About Pre-Marital Sex?
Let me give you the facts. You can not argue with these. When you read this it will make you want to tell your kids to wait until marriage.
1. 50% of all pregnancies in the US are unplanned. 8 out of 10 teen pregnancies are unplanned.
2. 43% of all unplanned pregnancies will end in abortion.
3. 60 million abortions since 1973.
4. 18% failure rate of condoms – CDC.
5. 9% failure rate of the Pill -CDC.
6. 25% of Americans have an incurable STD.
7. 85% of Americans with herpes don’t know it.
8. 43% of teens did not use a condom the last time they had sex-CDC.
9. 41% of teens admit to having sexual intercourse-CDC.
10. 21% of teens used drugs or alcohol before the last sexual intercourse-CDC.
11. 1 in 4 girls will be pregnant at least once before the age of 20.
12. 1 in 4 teens will contract an STD every year.
13. $16,000- the cost to taxpayers for every teen birth
14. About 750,000 teens get pregnant each year.
15. The U.S. has the highest teen pregnancy rate and abortions in the world.
Why Teach Your Kids to Wait Until Marriage?
These stats should give you pause. Something is not right here. Where have we gone wrong as a society? What the world offers is not working!
Let’s be honest, the statistics are getting worse year by year. Not better. It’s time to change the strategy.
The only way to break this cycle of lies is with biblical truth. God’s truth, not man’s truth (lies).
Here are 15 reasons (truths) why you should teach your kids to wait until marriage. Oddly enough, they all go back to biblical principles. Maybe God does know what He is doing…
1. No fear of pregnancy when you wait until marriage.
2. No fear of sexual diseases or AIDS.
3. No emotional heartbreaks or rage over a betrayal.
4. No abortions.
5. No fear of getting caught, sneaking, or guilt.
6. No regrets or depression over past mistakes.
7. No corruption of character.
8. Ensures the future of the unborn child to have a father at home someday.
9. Less stress on the family.
10. No risk of a botched abortion or sterilization.
11. No fear of raising a child as a teen or young adult.
12. No financial stress for birth control, abortion, or raising a child
13. No post-abortion trauma or nightmares.
14. No risk of children “popping up” years later.
15. No risk of misunderstandings or rape charges.
Is Waiting Until Marriage Worth It?
If you ask people who have waited until marriage versus people who have not waited until marriage, you will find those who had sex before marriage had regrets.
I have yet to find someone who waited until marriage that had regrets.
God, in His mercy, forgives if we don’t wait, but why not do something better? Let’s be honest and give the truth. The whole truth about God’s plan for sexuality.
Frankly, sex outside of marriage is more than our kids were ever meant to handle. That’s why God says to wait. Not because He is boring, or mean. It’s for our protection mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
Sex was meant for a couple who has permanently bonded for life under a binding contract of marriage.
Let me tell you, it is worth the wait.
Do you teach your kids to wait until marriage? Why or why not?
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