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Do you struggle with self-pity? Kind of embarrassing to admit, huh? I mean who wants to admit they have this ongoing conversation in their head going on all day and night.
Perhaps, like me, you run every scenario in your head over and over again wondering how someone ELSE could be so insensitive.
Or how this or that could have actually happened.
Maybe your mind gets stuck on the same people and the same dialogue until it is an obsession. Before you know it, you have given your power over to another person without realizing it. Ugh!
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Truthfully, self-pity can be addicting. Once you start, it is hard to stop unless you decide to stop consciously. Everyday. And replace it with something good.
In this post, I will give you 5 tips to help you stop your self-pity for good and move past the hard times. You don’t have to be caught in a cycle of unforgiveness and anger. You can be free again.
5 Awesome Hacks to Get Rid of Self-Pity Once and For All
You don’t have to live in self-pity. There are things you can do to move on from the hard times in your life. Check out out these 5 tips to help you get free.
1.) Stop ruminating. It does no good to play the same situation over and over again making the same arguments in your mind so you will be ready at a moment’s notice to respond with your points. Realize that you are allowing others to steal your joy and peace when you do this. Don’t let other people hijack your brain.
2). Release the situation to God. The most difficult step is to release everything to God and move on. Decide not to take the problem out of His hands and worry. It may help to journal your feelings as a form of release. Or talk to an empty chair and say everything you need to say out loud.
3.) Forgive those who have hurt you. Forgive yourself, others, and God for anything that is still causing bitterness. Don’t leave anything on your side undone. Realize you only have a certain amount of power in a situation. In fact, you are only responsible for you, nothing more.
4). Choose gratitude/give back. Replace your self-pity with gratitude. This helps move the focus away from you and on to others. Every time you start feeling sorry for yourself, start naming all the things you are grateful for in your life.
You can go a step further and volunteer. This will help you to realize there are other people who are hurting and have difficult problems too. The point is to get outside of yourself and be other-focused.
5.) Prayer. Every time you start to fall back into a pattern of self-pity, stop yourself. Give it to God instead. Pray for God to calm your heart and soothe your mind. Give Him your pain instead. He knows and understands you deeply and intimately. Ask God to restore your joy.
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Prayer to Help You Overcome Self-Pity
Here is a prayer to help you stop the constant stirring in your mind:
Thank you for loving and caring for me. You alone know my deep hurts, frustrations, and feelings of rejection concerning (the situation). I ask that you would help me to change what I can, forgive those who have hurt me, and release the rest to You.
Thank you for giving me the power to lay this problem down at the cross. When I am tempted to take it back and worry or churn, please remind me You are in control of the situation. In fact, I can rest in You. Thank you, Lord, that I can trust you to work in ways I never dreamed possible.
Help me to put my mind at ease and claim Philippians 4: 8 which says to think on things that are true, right, pure, noble, and lovely. Let my mind be fixed on You and Your words. Not mine. If I need to think about the situation, give me the right thoughts that include a solution. But nothing more until then. Please help me to praise you in this situation even though I don’t know how to solve it.
Thank you that I can put my mind at ease and move on with my life. Restore to me the joy of your salvation.
In Jesus Name,
Release Self-Pity For Good
In conclusion, releasing self-pity is one of the most freeing things you can do. You no longer have to harbor anger, resentment, or bitterness in your heart. And your mind no longer has to go in circles trying to figure out how to do things differently. It is time to overcome the pain with these five truths and move on with your life for good.
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