Overcoming Self-Pity: 4 Ways to Keep From Wallowing

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4 Ways to Move Beyond Self-Pity

Do you struggle with self-pity? Kind of embarrassing to admit, huh? If you are like me, you know all about wallowing.

You run every scenario in your head over and over again wondering how someone ELSE could be so insensitive. Or how this or that could have actually happened. The mind gets stuck on the same people and the same dialogue until it is an obsession.

Truthfully, self-pity can be addicting. For those of you who don’t get this, let me explain. When you continue to roll a situation over and over in your head, it is like a pig wallowing in the mud.

Yes. Picture a pig because that’s about where I used to go with this whole wallowing thing. I would find myself caught in a deep mire of feelings and emotions; meanwhile, nothing changed because I was too stuck in my pain to pull myself out.

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Changing the Habit of Self Pity

Unfortunately, I realized I struggled with this habit maybe 10 years ago.  I REALIZED this about 10 years ago, but changing the habit of self-pity has taken a lot of time. It’s always there.

“Piggy” is still sitting in my head ready to roll. I just don’t allow him out very often. And he doesn’t get muddy anymore. If you are like me, you may need a little help to stop self-pity. Check out these suggestions. They really help.

Here are 4 suggestions to help you stop wallowing in self-pity:

1.) Grieve the pain. Feel the pain and work through the situation. Journal. Talk to a trusted friend, pastor, or counselor. There is nothing wrong with getting professional help when you are stuck wallowing in a situation.

Related: 5 Greatest Lessons You Can Learn From Suffering

2.)  Forgive those who have hurt you. Forgive yourself, others, and God for anything that is still causing bitterness. Don’t leave anything on your side undone. Realize you only have a certain amount of power in a situation. In fact, you are only responsible for you, nothing more.

Related: 5 Important Reasons Why You Need to Forgive

3).  Release the situation to God. The most difficult step is to release everything God and move on. Decide not to take out of His hands and worry. Pray for wisdom on how to handle things in the future.

Related: Can God Use a Horrible Failure or Loss?

4). Give back to others. It helps to practice gratitude. Giving back makes you realize there are other people who have had worse things happen to them. This helps move the focus away from you and on to others.

Related: Service Project: How Volunteering Will Change Your Family

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4 Ways to Overcome Self-Pity Before it Destroys You

Prayer to Help You Overcome Self-Pity

Here is a prayer to help you stop the constant stirring in your mind:

Dear Lord,

Thank you for loving and caring for me. You alone know my deep hurts, frustrations, and feelings of rejection concerning  (the situation). I ask that you would help me to change what I can, forgive those who have hurt me, and release the rest to You.

Thank you for giving me the power to lay this problem down at the cross. When I am tempted to take it back and worry or churn, please remind me You are in control of the situation. In fact, I can rest in You. Thank you that I can trust you to work in ways I never dreamed possible.

Help me to put my mind at ease and claim Philippians 4: 8 which says to think on things that are true, right, pure, noble, and lovely. Let my mind be fixed on You and Your words. Not mine. If I need to think about the situation, give me the right thoughts that include a solution. But nothing more until then.

Thank you I can put my mind at ease and move on with my life.

In Your Name,
Amen

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Release Self-Pity For Good

In conclusion, releasing self-pity is one of the most freeing things you can do. You no longer have to harbor anger, resentment, or bitterness in your heart. And your mind no longer has to go in circles trying to figure out how to do things differently. It is time to overcome the pain with these four truths and move on with your life for good.

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2 Comments

  1. Donna Miller on June 13, 2018 at 11:03 pm

    I love your posts. You could be talking about something serious and I still find myself smiling and chuckling over your sweet sense of humor that is sprinkled throughout your writings. So true! Being free from the sadness is so much better than wallowing! ❤

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:51 pm

      Donna, thanks! I try to use a bit of humor to make a point!

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