If you have had a hard week with your kids, you may enjoy some helpful facts about parenting from an experienced mom who has raised two kids. These parenting secrets are not so much about what you need to do as a parent; it is more about encouragement for your own parenting style.
Looking back, I realize how much I worried about some of my parenting decisions. Even though most days I felt confident about my ability to be a good mom, there were other days, not so much…I felt like a total failure.
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Frankly, I wish I had more people telling me the real facts about parenthood. Perhaps some encouragement the day my son accidentally poured a bottle of maple syrup over his head might have been nice. Or the day my daughter came home with lice. That was fun…
For those of you who have had a “maple syrup or lice” kind of day, this is for you.
Here are a few pieces of wisdom I have gleaned along the way. Perhaps I can enlighten you on the difference between parenting myths and facts. Oh, by the way, vaseline kills lice. That’s true. I learned that on the third round of washing my daughter’s hair.
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3 Facts About Parenting I Wish I Knew Earlier
Here are three facts about parenting I wish I knew when I first started having kids. I think it would have helped if older moms let me know that I didn’t have to be perfect in parenting a child. And my kids didn’t have to be perfect either.
Remember that kids all develop differently. Each one is unique and special in their gifts and talents.
1. Parents Compare Their Kids
One of the first facts about parenting you need to know is that parents like to compare their kids in every way possible. It is natural and can be okay, but sometimes it crosses into bragging and over-inflated egos. If our kids look good, we look good too.
I remember I would often hear about how little “precious” did this or that and how amazing he was. Their child was perfect in sports, school, musical abilities, or even potty training. It starts early. I was constantly wondering if I was doing things right if my kids weren’t number one.
Or doing number 2.
I promise you that your friend’s kids have faults. They just aren’t telling you. Learn to ignore “braggy” mom or dad. Some parents just don’t want to be transparent about their life or their kids.
It is a real blessing when you can find a friend who you feel safe enough to talk to about parenting struggles. If you can’t find a friend, MOPS is a great avenue to find like-minded moms who want to talk honestly about parenting and mom life.
Better yet, join a prayer group where you can pray about your struggles and share your deepest concerns with safe people.
In the meantime, remember one of the greatest facts of parenting is other kids may have special talents, but your kids have special talents too. Celebrate your child’s talents and gifts–just don’t brag about it.
2. Peer Pressure From Other Parents
Second, you need to be aware of the peer pressure you are going to feel from other parents. Over the years, I have felt an enormous amount of pressure from parents to conform to what everyone else was doing.
It permeated sports, social activities, grades, church, clothes, and even social media standards. At the end of the day, you and your husband have the responsibility of raising your children.
You alone are accountable to God for how your family conducts their affairs. Don’t let other parents pressure you into allowing your kids to do things they are not ready to do or allowing your kids to do things you know are not right.
Sadly, this is one of the facts about parenting that is hard to swallow.
I never thought this is where I would be persecuted the most in my Christian walk. You would be surprised what parents are letting their kids do now. Even Christian families have become dangerously permissive with drugs, sex, and alcohol.
This article from Crosswalk goes into further detail on how to deal with peer pressure from other parents.
3. Parenting Styles Differ
The third, and one of the greatest facts about parenting, is to remember that parenting styles differ. Eventually, it all works out in the end, so just keep on the path you know is right for your kids.
For instance, both of my kids were highly social and didn’t love school work. They were both “B” students (gasp). And I am here to tell you they are fine. The world did not come to an end.
I think my kids would both say they are happy with their efforts in school; it got them where they wanted to go. My husband and I are happy with them too.
I am relieved to say they both were accepted into all the colleges they applied to when they were a senior in high school.
My best parenting secret is to lean into your kid’s gifts and pray God will get them where they need to be. I had my doubts some days. FYI: Getting maple syrup and vaseline out of hair is awful.
What Is the Hardest Part of Parenting?
I wish I had known these three facts about parenting when I started out as a mom. It would have helped me to know that being a parent is a mental game. The hardest part of parenting was overcoming the worry, fear, and doubt over things that were mostly normal parts of growing up.
Now that my kids are older, I see how God worked in their lives to get them where they are now. It is only by His grace we made it through some of the rougher patches.
Looking back, I realize the disappointments and trials are when my kids grew the most. And so did I.
Don’t give up. If you have had disappointments, you will make it through. It all does come out okay in the end. Maybe not what you thought, but through their struggles, they do find their way.
What facts about parenting do you want to share? Comment below.
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