It can be daunting to think about how to raise a kind child in this age of entitlement. Fortunately, it is still possible each day with just a little thought and consideration.

You can jumpstart your parenting game if you start thinking about others in general.

Being others-oriented as a family will help your kids develop a heart of empathy no matter their age. We all have something to give. Keep reading if you want to know how to raise a kind and compassionate child in this “me” world.

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Check out these 17 ways on how to raise a kind child. It is a crucial aspect of their moral and emotional development.

Kindness promotes empathy, compassion, and positive relationships with others. In fact, if you want to explain kindness to a child, you should start by doing it first. Here are some practical ways to teach your kids to be kind:

1. Pick out gifts for holidays and celebrations

Make sure your child has the opportunity to help pick out a gift for someone else in the family. If he is older, perhaps even contribute a little money. This will help you and your family focus more on the giving than the receiving part of the holidays.

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 2. Bake for neighbors or cook for a meal train

This is a great opportunity to spend time together in the kitchen, learning how to measure, stir, and pour. Plus, it teaches your child to give to others when you finish the meal. This is how to raise a kind child in today’s world.

3. Pick projects of giving and do it together

Pick a project that will fit in with your family. We loved doing Operation Christmas Child and Angel Tree. Our kids helped us shop for the gifts and deliver them.

It was something that became a tradition in our house for many years. They asked to do it every year.

4. Capitalize on everyday opportunities to give kindness

Encourage your child to make not only his lunch but his sister’s lunch, get a diaper or a bath towel for the baby, or help a sibling who is sick. This is how to raise a kind child.

5. Model empathy

Model the behavior you wish to see.  Kids learn more from what you do than what you say.  Avoid raising your voice, rolling your eyes, or any other gestures that would make your kids feel unwanted.

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If you are kind and have empathy, chances are your kids will be kind, too. This is how to teach compassion to a child: by doing.

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6. Read books that teach empathy and kindness 

Choose picture books that emphasize character qualities such as empathy and kindness. Read them out loud to all your kids. Talk about the characters in the story and how they showed kindness. Or what happened to the ones who were not?

This is how to raise a moral child: Emphasize moral character repeatedly through books.

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7. Read Bible stories that show kindness

Emphasize that God tells us to love our neighbor, including family and friends. Reinforce that you also love them, and Jesus does, too.

Tell them how happy Jesus is when they do nice things for each other. Teaching kindness and empathy to your kids is rooted in the Bible, so always refer to that.

This is how to raise a respectful child who loves Jesus.

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8. Positive reinforcement

Catch your kids doing something kind and compassionate. Make a big deal about it, even if it is small. Your other kids will hear it and want to get the same kind of praise too.

Don’t forget to thank your children when they do nice things.                              

9. Volunteer/Missions

You don’t have to leave the country to volunteer or do missions. Encourage your child to shovel your neighbor’s driveway, plant flowers, volunteer in the church nursery together, or give her artwork to a sick person.

When your kids are older, do a family mission trip. We went to the Texas border for many years. It was the best thing we ever did as a family. This is how to raise kind humans.

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10. Donate toys and clothes

Go through your child’s room together and gather all the toys, stuffed animals,  clothes, and shoes that your child no longer uses. Bag it up and donate it to a local charity such as Goodwill or Salvation Army.

Teaching kindness to your kids by actively giving to others is a great way to pass your faith to the next generation.

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11. Buy gift cards for others at school or church

Get a bunch of $5 gift cards from Starbucks and have your child give them to the custodians, cooks, secretaries, teachers, and lunch ladies at school or to the Sunday School teacher at church.

This is how to raise a kind child.

12. Money jar

Place a money jar in the kitchen for everyone to donate pocket change throughout the year. When the holidays come, decide what to do with the money as a family.

Then spend the day together doing the mission project.

13. Food donation for those without a home

There is one area in my town that typically has homeless people asking for money or food.

Several times, we put together a care package with water, canned food, peanut butter, etc., and kept it in our car to give to them when we drove by. This is how to raise a kind child.

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14. Gifts for the community

You can make a meal, bake goodies, or create artwork for your local fire/ambulance department, your child’s dentist or doctor, the mailman, or the trash collector.

Then, deliver it together. You and your child will be blessed when you see their faces as they receive the gifts.

15. Lemonade stand

Help your kids with a lemonade stand. Have them donate or tithe the earnings to a hurting family, your local church, or a cause dear to your children’s hearts.

Teaching kindness to your kids by using their own money is one way to curb entitlement.

16. Prayer

Pray with your kids before bedtime. Spend time talking about people you need to include in your prayers.

Find the names of the missionaries from your local church and include them on the list. Having a heart of prayer is how to raise a kind child.

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17. Work at a shelter

One of the most impactful things we did as a family was work at a women’s shelter on Thanksgiving Day. My kids were exposed to women and children who were victims of domestic abuse and had no place to go.

The drive home from the shelter was always quiet as the kids processed what they saw. It made them so much more grateful for what they had.

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What makes a kind kid? Raising a kind child is an ongoing process, and it’s important to be patient and understanding.

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Celebrate your child’s acts of kindness, no matter how small, and offer praise and encouragement.

You can have children who think of others now and throughout their lives.  One of the easiest things to do is model empathy daily; your kids will repeat what they see.

Don’t get discouraged if they are not feeling so kind right now. It takes time to mold a child’s heart.

Parenting is more of a marathon, not a race. Stay in there for the long haul.

If you keep implementing these tips, you will eventually see fruit. You can teach your kids to be kind daily with just a little thought.

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  1. Truly we need to be intentional about raising kind and compassionate kids.
    All your suggestions above are useful, I especially love it when the children volunteer at homes and shelters.

  2. The attitude of gratitude is such an important moral to instill and because it’s learned and not an automatic emotion we focus a lot of energy modeling this without kids! Thanks for sharing these tips!

  3. Thank you so much for sharing. I have three children and they are all so different in their responses. Helping them navigate learning how to be kind is a daily gift. As mine are older now, I see the benefits of all the hard work when they were younger.

  4. Wow! Thank you so much for all these wonderful ideas! I’ve been feeling convicted that I need to be praying WITH my kids more often. This is very encouraging.

  5. What great ideas! Some of these we have done but definitely some new ones for the future! I especially love that there is a mix of really simple things you can do at home (#4 was one of my favorites!) And a few more ones that take forethought!

    • Brynn, I am so glad these ideas were helpful to you. Raising kind and compassionate kids takes some extra thought and creativity, but it sure is worth it in the end. Glad you like #4!

  6. I love love LOVE this, reads like this are so needed today thank you for writing this I’m defiantly sharing with all my friends who just became mothers, they’re already doing amazing and this will help them even more!

    • Daeja, thanks for sharing this with your friends. It is hard to raise kind and compassionate kids in this “me” world, but it is possible. It just takes a little extra thought.

  7. I love love love this post. It’s something that is so important to me. I’m definitely going to try some of these out on my stepkids.

    • Amanda, I am so glad this is helpful to you. It does take a little thought to be “others” oriented, but it is really important. It is not hard to raise kind and compassionate kids when God is in the center of it all.

  8. In this age of entitled kids and adults, this is a worthy lesson! Kind kids don’t just happen without intentional instruction from their parents.

    • Marya, yes, it is not easy to raise kind and compassionate kids without some thought. It seems easier to just do it ourselves, but including our kids in on the help is really worth it.

    • Thanks, Jennifer. Volunteering is such a great way to raise kind and compassionate kids. It was one of the best things we did as parents.

  9. There is so many ways and I love that you have this list. My boys love taking canned goods to the homeless shelter and dropping coloring books and crayons off to the kids in the hospital.

  10. This is such a great list! I love all your ideas here and we do many of them but I did learn a few new ones. Thank you for sharing your ideas.

  11. These are great ideas! We made valentines cards for people in the hospital yesterday. My 8 year old didn’t really want to do it, but his card turned out super sweet!

    • My kids weren’t really excited about doing nice things for people until after it was done. Then it was all of the sudden meaningful. If I were led by everything they wanted to do, we’d be on the couch watching TV while on social media. Sometimes you just gotta go and let them see for themselves over time. Good job for doing this!

  12. Great post! Thanks for all the awesome ideas. Some we already use and others I am excited to implement!

    • Thanks. I hope 17 Easy Ways to Raise Kind and Compassionate Kids was helpful for you. There is something for everyone at every age.

  13. Great post! I love your tips. I will definitely list all of these. Thank you for sharing

    • I hope these tips will help you and your family. Anyone can do them. You don’t even have to have kids to show kindness and compassion to strangers.

  14. Super awesome post! I have a six-year old and man, kids are selfish! Lol but we do do many of these do I’m very hopeful this is just a stage lol I especially like the one of having him contribute a little to gifts during Christmas. I think this is an awesome idea and will start it this year! He now has 10 months to get used to the idea ????

    • Kids are selfish by nature, for sure! We had to drag one of our kids on the mission trip every year. Once there, it was great. It was just getting there that was hard. Lots of attitude. We just ignored it and kept going. This kid now says it was the best thing we did as parents. Keep on. One day it will all click. Until then, batton down the hatches.

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