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Christian teenage dating. No big deal. That is until YOUR teen starts dating. That’s when everything changes.
Suddenly, the conversations get real…scary.
Thinking about your son or daughter out in the world without supervision is daunting. Unfortunately, the inevitable will happen. Sooner or later, your child will be alone with the opposite sex.
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So how do you prepare your teen, especially if you are a Christian parent? What are the real facts, and is it possible to teach him to wait when the stats are so discouraging?
In this post, we are going to talk about Christian teenage dating with hard facts (statistics). And how to talk to your teen as a Christian parent.
Teen Dating Statistics
1. 41% of teens admit to having sexual intercourse-CDC.
2. 30% of those teens surveyed have had sex in the last 3 months. And 46% of them did not use a condom the last time they had sex-CDC.
3. 1 in 4 teens will contract an STD every year.
4. 10 million new STDs are reported each year. Those most infected are between the ages of 15-24-CDC.
5. About 80% of sexually active people are infected with an STD at some point in their lives-Teen Vogue.
6. 50% of all gonorrhea diagnoses are those between the ages of 15-24. The rate of reported gonorrhea cases increased by 15.5% for persons aged 15–19 years in 2017-American Sexual Health Association (ASHA)
7. 65% of all chlamydia diagnoses are between the age of 15-24, representing 62.6% of all reported chlamydia cases-ASHA
8. There is a 30% chance of picking up a sexual disease even if it’s a one-time encounter-WebMD.
19. 80% of Americans with herpes don’t know it.
10. 21% of all new HIV diagnoses are young people between the ages 13-24-CDC
Talking to Your Kids About Sex
I would love to tell you the best secret to keep your child from being sexually active is a simple conversation, but it is not.
It’s many conversations, coupled with a strong relationship, prayer, and lots of wisdom is what you need when talking about Christian teenage dating.
Even then it is a leap of faith that your teen will do the right thing. You have to consider friends, locations, curfew, and about every other factor to keep them out of harm’s way.
Most of all, it is about passing down a legacy of faith.
How Do I Talk to My Kids About the Birds and the Bees?
The best way to talk to your kids about Christian teen dating is to pass down a legacy of faith based on the Bible. A legacy of faith includes teaching abstinence.
Ephesians 5:3 says, “But among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
Abstinence is the only way to talk to your teen about dating. In order to do this, you have to have your own faith. If you don’t have faith, then you can’t pass it down to your kids.
Your convictions will be transferred to your child whether you like it or not.
If you don’t believe in the Bible and practice biblical parenting then your kids probably won’t adhere to biblical principles either.
A child with no real faith or biblical training has no reason to practice abstinence. It is too hard to wait to have sex unless there is a deep moral conviction in his heart. This kind of conviction starts early in your child’s training.
Peer pressure and lack of conviction will eventually win over anything you say.
The stats clearly show this.
Over the years, I have seen how families that practice faith raise kids with a strong moral compass. These kids are willing to wait until marriage because they want to be safe in multiple ways.
1. First of all, kids with faith realize Biblical principles will keep them out of trouble when they start teen dating.
They know having premarital sex has big consequences such as STDs. And now lawsuits and possible jail time for assault.
The Bible has been warning about the consequences of premarital sex for centuries. Now more than ever, they can count on it for real truth and guidance.
2. Second, they realize the emotional consequences of giving themselves to someone other than a spouse.
There is no guarantee of loyalty or commitment. They know this is not real love, but lust.
Real love waits. This is such an important concept to bring up when discussing Christian teenage dating.
It doesn’t force something that is not ultimately good for both partners.
3. Third, kids who embrace a faith know they don’t want to have sex before marriage because it is wrong, and it will hurt their relationship with God and their parents.
I want to encourage you to consider developing your faith now. And developing an open and honest relationship with your child. Don’t wait until you have a teen to start talking about Christian teenage dating. Start early when talking to your kids about faith.
It is important to plant those seeds early in your child’s heart. Preaching at them won’t work. Faith has to be a lifestyle of living biblically as a family.
It is a part of your everyday life.
A relationship with your child and faith is better than a few sex talks and a condom they probably won’t use all the time. Don’t let your child be another statistic. This trend needs to stop.
Let it stop with your family. Christian teenage dating should be a fun experience. Not one they spend the rest of their life regretting.
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