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Christian Teenage Dating: Best Secrets When Talking to Your Kids

Christian teenage dating. No big deal. That is until YOUR teen starts dating. That’s when everything changes.

Suddenly, the conversations get real…scary.

Thinking about your son or daughter out in the world without supervision is daunting. Unfortunately, the inevitable will happen. Sooner or later, your child will be alone with the opposite sex.

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So how do you prepare your teen, especially if you are a Christian parent? What are the real facts, and is it possible to teach him to wait when the stats are so discouraging?

In this post, we are going to talk about Christian teenage dating with hard facts (statistics). And how to talk to your teen as a Christian parent.

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Teen Dating Statistics

1. 41% of teens admit to having sexual intercourse-CDC.

2. 30% of those teens surveyed have had sex in the last 3 months. And 46% of them did not use a condom the last time they had sex-CDC.

3. 1 in 4 teens will contract an STD every year.

4. 10 million new STDs are reported each year. Those most infected are between the ages of 15-24-CDC.  

5. About 80% of sexually active people are infected with an STD at some point in their lives-Teen Vogue.

6. 50% of all gonorrhea diagnoses are those between the ages of 15-24. The rate of reported gonorrhea cases increased by 15.5% for persons aged 15–19 years in 2017-American Sexual Health Association (ASHA)

7. 65% of all chlamydia diagnoses are between the age of 15-24, representing 62.6% of all reported chlamydia cases-ASHA

8. There is a 30% chance of picking up a sexual disease even if it’s a one-time encounter-WebMD.

19. 80% of Americans with herpes don’t know it.

10. 21% of all new HIV diagnoses are young people between the ages 13-24-CDC

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Talking to Your Kids About Sex

I would love to tell you the best secret to keep your child from being sexually active is a simple conversation, but it is not.

It’s many conversations, coupled with a strong relationship, prayer, and lots of wisdom is what you need when talking about Christian teenage dating. 

Even then it is a leap of faith that your teen will do the right thing. You have to consider friends, locations, curfew, and about every other factor to keep them out of harm’s way.

Most of all, it is about passing down a legacy of faith.

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How Do I Talk to My Kids About the Birds and the Bees?

The best way to talk to your kids about Christian teen dating is to pass down a legacy of faith based on the Bible. A legacy of faith includes teaching abstinence.

Ephesians 5:3 says, “But among you, there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

Abstinence is the only way to talk to your teen about dating.  In order to do this, you have to have your own faith. If you don’t have faith, then you can’t pass it down to your kids.

Your convictions will be transferred to your child whether you like it or not.

If you don’t believe in the Bible and practice biblical parenting then your kids probably won’t adhere to biblical principles either.

A child with no real faith or biblical training has no reason to practice abstinence. It is too hard to wait to have sex unless there is a deep moral conviction in his heart. This kind of conviction starts early in your child’s training. 

Peer pressure and lack of conviction will eventually win over anything you say.

The stats clearly show this.

Over the years, I have seen how families that practice faith raise kids with a strong moral compass. These kids are willing to wait until marriage because they want to be safe in multiple ways.

1. First of all, kids with faith realize Biblical principles will keep them out of trouble when they start teen dating.

They know having premarital sex has big consequences such as STDs. And now lawsuits and possible jail time for assault.

The Bible has been warning about the consequences of premarital sex for centuries. Now more than ever, they can count on it for real truth and guidance.

2. Second, they realize the emotional consequences of giving themselves to someone other than a spouse.

There is no guarantee of loyalty or commitment. They know this is not real love, but lust.

Real love waits. This is such an important concept to bring up when discussing Christian teenage dating.

It doesn’t force something that is not ultimately good for both partners.

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3. Third, kids who embrace a faith know they don’t want to have sex before marriage because it is wrong, and it will hurt their relationship with God and their parents.

I want to encourage you to consider developing your faith now. And developing an open and honest relationship with your child.  Don’t wait until you have a teen to start talking about Christian teenage dating. Start early when talking to your kids about faith. 

It is important to plant those seeds early in your child’s heart. Preaching at them won’t work. Faith has to be a lifestyle of living biblically as a family.

It is a part of your everyday life.

A relationship with your child and faith is better than a few sex talks and a condom they probably won’t use all the time. Don’t let your child be another statistic. This trend needs to stop.

Let it stop with your family. Christian teenage dating should be a fun experience. Not one they spend the rest of their life regretting.


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32 thoughts on “Christian Teenage Dating: Best Secrets When Talking to Your Kids”

  1. I’ll admit that even though my daughter is only three-years-old, this thought still creeps into my head every now and again. As soon as she is older, we will start talking to her about this very important topic. I waited until I was absolutely sure that I was ready, and committed before I gave up my virginity at the age of 20.

    1. Actually, I wrote this to parents with 2-year-olds because faith starts early. It is important to start talking to your kids about God when they are young. It is hard to start instilling values at 10. By then, kids already have been exposed to many things.

    1. Or perhaps just wait! I realize a lot of kids won’t wait, so protection is definitely better. Unfortunately, the stats say that no matter how much parents say to use protection, they aren’t. It is a terrible problem. Teaching values and morals early will help kids to understand why it is important to wait until marriage.

  2. This is all great information. My husband works in cytology and my daughters are growing up knowing probably too much about STDs. But we know it’s so important for them to understand the risks.

  3. I definitely think teaching your children the proper attitude about relationships and sex in context is the best way to preventing them from getting some of these STIs. It’s really hard with a world which is teaching them the opposite. Which is why engagement with your children is so very important.

  4. Abstinence teaching is great but there also needs to be a discussion of safe sex practices. Thank you for bringing up a topic that I feel doesn’t get opened enough and while we may differ in certain aspects, I love knowing your perspective.

    1. Thanks, Jennifer. I appreciate your comment. I agree that if kids are going to have sex, they use protection. I believe there already is a lot of safe sex talk, but kids aren’t listening. The stats show this. That’s why I think it important to have a relationship with God, and to introduce faith early. Morality goes a lot further than a safe sex talk. Waiting is a conviction that comes with morality.

  5. Thank you for being out spoken about faith, conviction and the legacy we leave behind to our children and even their children. I do whole heartedly agree on the importance of the most important relationship they will have, is with God.

    1. I hear you. Safe sex is an option, but the stats show that the safe sex talks aren’t working. Teens have heard this a million times, but they still don’t do it. Having a faith in God motivates kids to wait because they believe in something better than a hookup.

  6. I love this post so much!! Passing down a legacy of faith is extremely important for families and children this days. Abstinence is truly the Key!!! I waited till marriage and practiced Abstinence because of my faith and I can definitely say that was the best decision of my life!!! More kids need to start paying attention to their Spiritual relationship with God

    1. It’s funny because many people regret having sex before marriage, but I have never heard anyone ever say they regret waiting until marriage. There is no shame or emotional damage when you wait. Thanks for reading.

  7. Abstinence-only education failed me and I was pressured into things by a boy that to this day still makes me feel violated. So while I think it’s important to teach abstinence, I think it’s also important to teach them how to have safe sex, and what sex is. Otherwise, it makes kids especially vulnerable to someone who is more knowledgeable than them, especially girls.

    1. I am so sorry, Diana. I can’t imagine how you feel. I certainly don’t know all the details, but I know that God never fails. Maybe the sex teaching did, but God is true and His principles always work. Thanks for reading.

  8. While abstinence if effective to prevent STD’s, teaching teenagers safe sex is an indispensable tool. My perspective is very different from yours, but I respect your views and how you raise your family 🙂

    1. I definitely believe that teens need to have protection, but I think they are already getting the safe sex talk. Everyone has heard this a million times, yet they don’t do it. The stats show kids like risky behavior.

  9. This is an important topic. I work w at risk adolescences 9-21. Unfortunately many parents don’t discuss this openly, for many reasons.

    1. Many parents don’t have their own faith, so they have nothing to pass down to their kids. Faith starts at home with your kids and it starts early. It is important to know what you believe so you can pass it down. Thanks for reading.

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