How Does God Speak to Us As Women: Ordinary Ways We May Be Missing God

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How does God speak to us as women? Is it different than the way He speaks to men?


God can speak to us any way He chooses (and He does), but I see something special about how He communicates with the fairer sex. In fact, I think it is pretty cool.

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Perhaps you have never noticed the difference in His approach. I didn’t until recently when my nephew’s wife posted some thoughts by Heather Farrell on Facebook. After I read it, I scrolled by thinking it was a nice idea.

And then it hit me. God does speak to men and women differently.

It is such a simple concept, yet I have missed it all these years as a Christian. Frankly, it has changed my view on how to hear God’s voice.

In fact, you too may be shocked if you have never heard this concept until now.

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When Your Husband Leaves the House Without Telling Anyone

My husband likes to leave the house without telling anyone. I don’t fault him for it now. In fact, I understand why he does it. But when I was a young mom, not so much.

In fact, it didn’t seem fair that he had the freedom to disappear for an hour to go on a bike ride or a long walk while I was tied to two kids all the time. Don’t get me wrong, I loved staying home with the kids.

Truthfully, I am grateful to my husband for working the extra hours so I could be with them.

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But really?

Frankly, there are only so many hours in the day you can answer to “Mooommmyyy” before you want to hide under the bed or sit in a closet and eat Doritos. The days are long, especially during the flu season. Can anyone say “quarantine?”

I missed my freedom. As a mom, it was hard to escape leave the house without anyone noticing. Ok, it was next to impossible.

If you are a young mom, you know how different it is when you go somewhere compared to when your husband leaves the house. Am I right?

In fact, he just walks out the door. Grrrrr. 

Meanwhile, if you want to leave, you have to beg find a babysitter to come over. When you finally do get one, you have a list of numbers, you tell where you are going, and when you will be back ( preferably next week).

And then there is the actual leaving. That has its own drama. Kids hanging on your leg, the crying … It’s not pretty.

And if your kids are sick, tough luck. You are NEVER leaving the house.

So what does this have to do with the question, “How does God speak to us as women?”


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How Does God Speak to Us As Women?

As women, many times we don’t have the luxury to steal away for a couple of hours, much less do we have days to be alone. Even with childcare, it’s a short amount of time we can be gone.

We are tied down like a deep-rooted tree that has grown into the foundation of a home.

Frankly, that’s a good thing. Your kids may not survive your husband’s cooking. Food poisoning anyone?

That is why many times in the Bible you will see God coming to women, meeting them right where they are while men have to get away to hear God’s voice. (They can’t multi-task like us.)

Here are some examples: Moses went to a mountain for forty days, Abraham heard God on the mountain when He was about to sacrifice Isaac, David heard God while wandering in the desert, Jonah was in a whale, John on the island of Patmos, and Paul was walking on the road to Damascus when God spoke to him.

Even Jesus went away to a mountain, a wilderness, and a garden to talk to God.

Women, on the other hand, can’t exactly leave. We have to call a babysitter.

God meets women right where they are. 

And many times, it’s while we are doing some mundane task.

Not real flashy, huh? No burning bush, lightening bolts carving the Ten Commandments, Red Sea parting, or big fish to swallow us up.


How does God speak to us as women?

He speaks to us while we are making the bed, fixing meals, rotating laundry, weeding, or waiting in the carpool line. God speaks to us while we are in the shower, making lunches, or laying in bed at night staring at the ceiling. 

God speaks to us in the most ordinary ways that seem, well, ordinary. And it makes us think He was not speaking at all because it was right between making lunches and loading the dishwasher.

Let’s face it, God knows we aren’t going to the mountain alone in the next thirty years. We can’t even go to the bathroom by ourselves.

He knows he has to meet us right in the middle of our big, crazy life.

You don’t believe me? Check this out from the Bible:

An angel came to Sarah telling her she would have Isaac, an angel came to Hagar, spies came to Rehab with a message, Issac’s servant came to Rebecca at the well, an angel came to Mary–the mother of Jesus, an angel came to Elizabeth, Jesus came to the woman at the well,  and Jesus came to Mary and Martha while preparing food and when Lazurus died.

Most of all, Jesus came to Mary at the tomb after He had been dead for three days.

God came to each of these women right where they were and spoke to them. 


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Can God Communicate With Us?

God communicates to us (man or woman) every day in the quietest ways if we will just listen to Him. When you least expect it, God whispers his love. In fact, I believe He can speak to us in our minds and touch our hearts.

I have clearly heard his voice while making my bed, weeding, cooking, or waiting in the car. I have I heard him when it’s quiet at night and everyone is asleep. Sometimes He speaks to me while I am sleeping.

He speaks His loving words, gives me direction, and imparts creative solutions to difficult problems. Sometimes He whispers words of reproof in the simplest ways.

I invite you to look for God in the mundane tasks of your life. You don’t need to wait for lightning bolts, the stars to align, or any other big display of His glory. He is right there with you as you fold that tenth load of laundry.

In fact, He is saying, “I love you, child. Come and rest your weary heart. I want to know you. Let’s talk.”

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Did you realize many times this is how God speaks to us as women? Comment below.

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  1. Suzanne on May 16, 2020 at 9:17 am

    Insightful post! I remember a discussion with one of my newly pregnant friends about 20 years ago. She was so worried that she wouldn’t have time for Jesus when her baby arrived. I assured her that she would have plenty of time with Jesus because he shows up in so many different ways!

  2. Emily on April 24, 2020 at 7:23 am

    I never really thought about this, but it’s so true! It can be difficult at times when we feel “stuck” but taking the time to listen to God during those everyday tasks is a great way to reconnect.

    • Julie Plagens on April 28, 2020 at 12:56 pm

      God is right here with us. And He meets us where we are at. Thanks for your comment.

  3. Beth Grider on April 23, 2020 at 7:20 pm

    God is so good that He meets us all wherever we are. He met Joseph in his dreams; walked with Enoch; met Gideon while hiding in a wine vat, threshing wheat; and spoke to Solomon and Samuel while they were trying to sleep.😴
    “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart” (Jer. 29:13). He loves to communicate with us. Praise Him🙌

    • Julie Plagens on April 28, 2020 at 1:01 pm

      Absolutely! God meets both men and women right where they are at. I think it is pretty cool that He knows women can’t typically get away for long periods of time to seek Him. He knows what we need right at the moment. Thanks for your comment.

  4. Carrie on April 22, 2020 at 8:25 pm

    When I read your opening I thought, “And sometimes I’m very glad he goes out!” However, that want true when we had kids at home. Now as an empty nester, I crave quiet.

    • Julie Plagens on April 28, 2020 at 1:02 pm

      Carrie, I love the quiet. It is a real luxury to be alone and hear God’s voice without distraction. Thanks for your comment.

  5. Ava James on April 22, 2020 at 3:59 pm

    Right where we are… is such a great thought. And has made me stop and think. Because in that difficult moment God is waiting for me to talk to Him.

    • Julie Plagens on April 28, 2020 at 1:05 pm

      Ava James, isn’t it cool how God speaks to us right where we are. We think it has to be a big display of HIs works. Meanwhile, He is speaking to us in between cooking chicken and heating the broccoli for dinner. Thanks for your comment.

  6. Susan Evans on April 22, 2020 at 11:27 am

    I love this! It’s true that women have continuous life-giving work to do for their families (producing meals, running the home, taking care of kids) so that they are not able to get away like men do. I was also surprised last week when I saw the same post you did. I like how you elaborate here. 🙂

    • Jess on April 23, 2020 at 8:57 pm

      Very insightful read, the part where you say “god speaks to us in the most ordinary way” really seemed to click with me and makes sense. Paying attention to our thoughts during those times could be very beneficial!

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