Do you want to know how to overcome failure? Most of us have felt like a failure at one time or another. It’s hard to admit because, frankly, who wants to look like they don’t have it all together?
In reality, you go to bed after a horrible day and pray the next day will be better. Many times, a new day does give a more hopeful perspective on life, and we move on.
Unfortunately, there are other days when you wake up and think it was all a nightmare only to realize you are not only living it, you are the star of the show.
In fact, it feels worse than the day before, and you wonder if life will ever get back to normal.
In a recent post about difficult times, I showed why God allows pain in our lives and uses it for good. To illustrate the point, I used a word picture of a garden and how God, the Master Gardner, sometimes has to do surgery on his plants (us) to bear fruit.
In this post, you will learn how to overcome failure or loss with another word picture. I will continue with the garden theme. You will see how everything has a purpose.
Nothing goes to waste, especially your horrible failure or loss.
How to Overcome Failure
It is ironic that I am using a garden as a word picture because I’m not a gardener by any stretch of the means. However, I do like planting flowers in my backyard. Unfortunately, I have a black thumb. Sadly, I kill my plants one way or another.
When they are dead, my husband puts them in the compost pile.
Just like plants, things in our life die too. Perhaps a dream, your health, a marriage, a wayward child, or even a lost job. The most painful is the death of a loved one.
Whatever the loss, we wonder where God is in our darkest hour. It is then the composting process begins.
“Every branch in me that does not bear fruit He takes away, and every branch that bears fruit He prunes. that it may bear more fruit” (John 15:2 ESV).
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What is composting?
Composting is a natural process of turning dead things (organic material) into a dark rich substance. It is the “soul of healthy soil.”
When you add compost to your yard or garden your plants grow bigger and are stronger. In fact, this is the way to keep pests away.
The best kind of organic material is not only dead things but poop. Isn’t it ironic this is what gives life? Dead things and waste are the best way to start something new.
It takes time for the compost to be useable though. It has to sit for three or four months to break down and rot.
What about the dead things in your life? Or something you think is a waste?
Perhaps, you have a sin that you let go too far, and it almost destroyed you. Whatever it is, God can use this horrible failure for good, if you will let Him.
It may be too raw right now, but with time and healing, your experiences can help bring life to others if you deal with them properly first.
In order for this to happen, you have to be willing to be broken (sit in the compost pile for a while) so it can turn into fertilizer. This is how to overcome failure in your life. Allow God to work.
What you thought was a terrible failure or loss is actually fertilizer for something new in the future.
I think this verse sums it up best. It is a composting verse!
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NIV).
How Do You Recover From Failure in Life?
If you want to know how to recover from a failure, go back to the beginning. Acknowledge the failures and discover the root of the problem.
When was the seed first planted in your heart?
Many times it goes back to a childhood hurt. Rejection from parents, siblings, other kids, or another type of traumatic event that changed your thinking.
Usually, bad thinking is rooted in a lie in some way. Until you deal with the original hurt and forgive, you are probably going to keep going in circles.
In a nutshell, this is what you need to do to overcome failure and succeed in life:
- Acknowledge the failure. (Pull up the plant)
- Deal with the lies, hurt, and pain. (Put it in the compost pile)
- Forgive. (Sit and let God work)
- Start new habits and behaviors. (Pull it out of the pile)
- Help others who are struggling. (Compost)
Sounds easy, but this process could take a while. I had to seek counseling. Number two took me 16 months to unravel. This is truly how to overcome failure.
How Do You Overcome Repeated Failure?
It’s not easy to overcome repeated failures and disappointments. However, it seems that failure is the best teacher when it comes to growth.
Think back on your own life. When have you grown the most or run to God? It probably wasn’t when you got that last promotion or award.
It is only when we face obstacles and trials that we start looking outside of ourselves for answers. Sadly, this is when many people get tripped up and blame God when, in fact, He may actually be drawing us to Him through our failures.
If you are repeatedly failing at something, it is time to evaluate your actions. In fact, some serious prayer is in order. Ask yourself these questions:
- Is God moving me in another direction?
- Am I stubborn or unteachable due to pride?
- Do I need to ask for help?
- Am I stuck in bad thinking?
- Am I willing to change and grow?
- Do I need to forgive?
If you want to know how to overcome failure, be willing to explore the “root” of what is going on. It is going to take some “digging” to get to the truth.
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How Do I Be Positive After Failure?
If you want to be positive after a failure, then let God take your pain and use it to help others who are a few steps behind you.
Furthermore, use your failures to plant new things in your own life. Your suffering and experiences will not be a waste when you do this.
Ironically, it is the best way to help you heal from any lingering pain you may still have from your failure or loss.
I pray you have learned something about how nature reflects life. The Master Gardener does know what He is doing. You can trust him with your life.
Did you learn how to overcome failure or loss? What have you done to make something good out of your pain? Comment below.
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