Can God Use a Horrible Failure or Loss?
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Do you feel like a horrible failure or have you recently experienced a terrible loss? You are not alone. Most of us have had this happen to us at one time or another.
After a horrible day, you go to bed and pray the next day will be better. Many times it is better the next day, but sometimes...it feels like life will never be the same again. The failure or loss is too big.
In a recent post, I showed how God allows pain in our lives and uses it for good. The Fruit of Discipline: Is the Pain Worth It? To illustrate the point, I used a word picture.
I talked about my sister’s garden and her failing squash plant. It had squash borers (icky bugs) in it. She had to do surgery on the plant by cutting out the bugs so it would survive and produce fruit.
This is not much different from what God does with us. He allows us to go through surgery (times of correction) so we can produce fruit. It is painful, but there is a happy ending when it is all done.
But what happens when the plant becomes a nuisance due to overgrowth, or it dies due to weeds or parasites? How do you cope when there is not a happy ending? Is it all a waste or is there more to the story?
In this post, you will learn how weeds, pruning and composting parallels to real life. I will show you that everything has a purpose. Nothing goes to waste, especially your horrible failure or loss.
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What is Pruning?
Here is the definition of pruning:
- to cut or lop superfluous or undesired twigs, branches, or roots from; trim.
- to rid or clear of (anything superfluous or undesirable).
There are some plants that need pruning or trimming regularly. I have one like this; it is a Crepe Myrtle. I have to prune it weekly during the summer.
It grows so fast that it will start hanging over our pool and dropping blossoms in the water. It is a mess to clean up. The tree is no longer fulfilling its purpose. It has become a liability. A nuisance.
Just like the tree, we need pruning too. We can get big and have beautiful things happening in our lives but lose focus. Perhaps even become a nuisance or a liability in the Kingdom of God
I know there are many people who don’t get pruned weekly. God allows their bad behavior to go on for years. One day it won’t be a pruning, it will be a scalping. Yikes!
My advice: take the weekly pruning. It is better than a drastic scalping that will leave a tree bald for months and be a horrible failure. I know first-hand.
Do You Have Weeds?
No one likes weeds. They are a nuisance. You don’t have to be a gardener to know how fast they pop up. I can never get complete control of them in my flower beds. They multiply overnight.
When I start pulling weeds in my yard, God lovingly reminds me about the weeds in my own life that need to go. Things like anger, fear, unforgiveness, etc. I am constantly battling this in my heart.
I have to keep pulling out the small failures before they take root and multiply into something big just like the weeds in my flowerbed.
In the past, I have let a few weeds take over my life. It seemed innocent at the time. I didn’t take care of my thoughts in a timely manner. Eventually, my thoughts took control, and it turned into action.
One day, it started choking the life out of me. Literally. I became sick. Unforgiveness took root and grew.
It was a horrible failure.
Thankfully, God has used this situation for good. I have been able to help others who have a family rift or estrangement. (I have a book coming out about it called Estranged: Finding Hope When Your Family Falls Apart.)
Now I take inventory a lot sooner. I don’t want the garden of my heart to get out of control. It is amazing how fast those weeds slip in when you are not looking. I would rather let God deal with me and pull a few weeds quickly so I don’t have a horrible failure later.
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What is Composting?
Composting is “a natural process that turns organic material into a dark rich substance. It is the ‘soul of healthy soil.’ Adding compost to your yard or garden will help your plants grow bigger and better.”
The best kind of organic material is dead things and poop. Isn’t it ironic this is what gives life? Dead things and waste. It takes time for the compost to be useable though. It has to sit for three or four months to break down and rot.
What about the dead things in your life? Or something you think is a waste? Maybe it is a dream that died, a death in the family, a parenting failure or a tragedy. Whatever it is, God can use these horrible things for good.
It may be too raw right now, but with time, your experiences can help bring life to others. In order for this to happen, you have to be willing to be broken (sit in the compost pile for a while) so it can turn into fertilizer.
What you thought was a terrible failure or loss is actually fertilizer for something beautiful in the future.
I think this verse sums it up best. It is a composting verse!
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (NIV).
What About Your Horrible Failure or Loss?
If you have had a horrible failure or loss, allow God to use it for good. Your experience may be in the form of pruning, weeds, or composting. Whatever it is, don’t let your failure go to waste.
Composte your trials.
Let God take your pain and use it to help others who are a few steps behind you. Your suffering will not be a waste when you do this. Ironically, it is the best way to help you heal from any lingering pain you may still have from your failure or loss.
I pray you have learned something about how nature reflects life. The Master Gardener does know what He is doing. You can trust him with your life.
Kari Jobe has a beautiful song called “The Garden.” It is a great example of how God has used a terrible situation (death in the family) for good. This is so powerful. Watch this!
Have you had a horrible failure or loss? How did you turn it into something good?
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