I can’t tell you how many times I have thought, “Has God abandoned me?” Perhaps you have felt the same way too. In fact, you have prayed for days, months, or even years for God to remove your situation only to find it worse than ever.
To put it bluntly, your life is hard. Really hard.
And you don’t know when it is going to get any better.
Some of you may be dealing with a health crisis, a wayward child, a failing marriage, or a family situation you think will never be resolved.
Others, a job issue, or lack of money.
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Whatever the problem, God isn’t moving on your behalf and you are angry. Perhaps even losing hope and feel like God has left you.
Before you give up, remember this truth: God uses the tragedy, the crisis, and the suffering to draw us to Him.
Unfortunately, many times we must feel pain–combined with the test of time–to reflect His image and grow spiritually.
When you are asking, “Has God abandoned me?” remember that many others in the Bible felt the same way as you. Here are some examples: Noah, Abraham, Moses, Isaac, Joseph, Ruth, Samson, David, Jeremiah, Ezra, and Esther.
Did you know that the name of God is never mentioned in the book of Esther? Yet we clearly see divine intervention in the midst of the silence.
Even Jesus said on the cross, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” (Matthew 27:46)
Just like you, each of these people (including Jesus) experienced a temporary feeling of abandonment that passed when the trial lifted.
The truth is you are loved. God is with you even when you are feeling forgotten. In fact, here is what you do when you feel God has abandoned you.
Have faith in these five truths no matter what.
5 Awesome Truths When Feeling Abandoned By God
If you are questioning God and silently asking, “Has God abandoned me?” then this is for you. These tips will help you trust God even when it feels like everything is out of control. I can assure you that God is engaged in your life, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
1. God is fully engaged in the details
In God’s infinite wisdom, He sees the whole picture and knows how each detail fits together perfectly to get just the right outcome at the right time.
He is crafting your story. Truthfully, you are connected to a bigger story that is beyond your imagination.
Be faithful to show up and do your part every day knowing that His providence is at work. God will tie all the loose ends together one day.
In time, every last detail will be resolved according to His will. Until then, get up each day and live it to the best of your ability.
Trust He is in control even when you think God has left you.
2. God is sovereign
God is in control.
There is nothing in the universe that is outside of His influence or authority. Everything passes through His hands first.
In fact, Satan has to ask God for permission to act. If you don’t believe me, check out the book of Job in the Bible.
While you may believe God has left you, He is, in fact, managing your trials every minute of every day. Furthermore, He said we would have trouble in this life so we should expect it. Bummer.
Each trial is an opportunity to release your will over to the God of the universe and believe He can work on your behalf.
If He can set the planets in orbit, balance the galaxies, create the heavens and earth, breathe life into a man and animals, create the oceans…He can manage your little world.
Remember this when you think, “Has God abandoned me?”
3. God’s timing is perfect
God existed before time. He has seen time from the beginning to the end–the entire spectrum. Our lives are only a small spec on the whole continuum.
Think of Lazurus. I’m sure Mary and Martha were thinking, “Has God abandoned me?” They couldn’t understand why Jesus didn’t intervene on his behalf.
Jesus could have healed him before he died, but he waited four days after his death just to make sure everyone knew he was dead.
So dead that he stunk.
And then He healed him…
I’m sure everyone was like, “Really, Jesus, four days? Did you have to wait until he smelled?!”
Lazarus’ family suffered horribly so Jesus could display His glory. They didn’t understand the greater purpose.
Often we don’t understand God’s timing with our finite minds, yet we must trust the overall plan because it is perfect. There is a greater purpose to our pain just like Lazerus. Remember this when you are thinking, “Has God abandoned me?”
4. God loves you
If there is anything I have learned in the last ten years, it is that God loves us.
Specifically, He loves you. Yes, you. You are included.
In fact, He has already shown His ultimate love on the cross by dying for your sins so you could live with him forever. Fortunately, it doesn’t stop there. There are other God winks around you if you will start looking differently at your problems.
Look at your situation through His lense of utter, lavish love toward you. In fact, you can ask Him to show you His love in small ways throughout your day.
You will be amazed how He shows up through other people, favor in situations, and tender mercies of grace that were otherwise unexpected or undeserved. You just have to start seeing with different eyes.
In fact, He loves you too much to leave you for even one second.
5. God is drawing you to Him
Our God is a God of relationship. He wants to be in fellowship with you all the time. Frankly, He will stop at nothing to get your attention.
Yeah, nothing. I know firsthand.
Sadly, we don’t always see our trials this way. Instead, we run away because we blame Him for our refinement or angry we didn’t get our way.
When you are asking, “Has God abandoned me,” remember that he is always here. It may be you have strayed from Him.
Truthfully, God is inviting you to run into His arms as a child runs to his daddy. He is drawing you to a sweeter and a more profound relationship than you can ever imagine if you will allow it.
What you need to realize is this kind of closeness only comes from complete brokenness. It is only in complete humility that we can truly approach Him.
What to Do When You Feel Like God Is Not There
You may feel like God has abandoned you, but I can assure you that it is not true. God has a plan for each person’s life. He is right beside you as you read this post.
God calls us to obedience even when we can’t see the details or know the outcome. Furthermore, He is working through the details (probably slowly) so that one day you will reflect Him.
God’s silence is intentional at times. And while we don’t understand it, He is hidden behind all events just like in the book of Esther where His name is never mentioned. But, oh, did he move.
He knows your pain too. And He loves you. He will never abandon you no matter what it feels like at the time.
Hebrews 13:5 – [Let your] conversation [be] without covetousness; [and be] content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.
Have you ever asked, “Has God abandoned me?” What did you do to feel better? Comment below.
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