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If you want to learn how to trust God with everything in your life, this post is for you. In fact, it may even be life-changing.

Trusting God does not come easily for most of us, especially if we have experienced past trauma. Even though we bear scars from the past, God asks us to continue to believe His Word and trust Him even when we don’t understand.

This requires a giant leap of faith for some of us (me included.) That is why I asked God to show me how He sees things from His perspective. Maybe I would trust Him more if my thoughts were His thoughts.

Oddly, God did answer —with a squash plant.

Weird, I know.

In this post, I will help you see how to trust God completely, even when life is hard.

By the end of the post, you may finally understand why difficult things happen, even to Christians. More importantly, when you take on God’s view, you may realize your suffering has a purpose.

How to Trust God Fully In a Trial?

It takes a strong person to know how to trust God fully, especially in a trial. Instead, most people ask, “Why me?” Or even blame God because He appears to be mean or cruel.

Before you judge God, how about seeing things from His point of view? I know I am not God but go with me here. 

Last week, my sister texted a picture of a nasty squash vine borer; she was performing surgery to remove the bugs when I called. Days earlier, she had noticed her squash plant would bloom, but then it would drop its flowers.

Unfortunately, no flowers meant no squash. She couldn’t figure out why.

 It looked good on the outside, but something was wrong internally. Hmm. Could there be an analogy taking place here?

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Oddly, this plant was so big that it was crowding out the other plants on the trellis that were producing fruit. Not only that, but it was also sucking precious nutrients from those producing plants.

A very proud plant, indeed…like us, maybe?

After a thorough inspection, she noticed a gooey mess toward the bottom of the plant.

Looking more closely, she found the enemy was a squash vine borer. It bored its way into the stalk close to the plant’s root. The “predator” was insidiously eating the squash vine from the inside out.

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Since my sister has an organic garden, her choices for dealing with the problem (the enemy) were limited. She could improve the soil, perform surgery to remove the squash borers, or let the vine die.

Do you see yourself yet? If you were the gardener, what would you do? Would you do surgery even though you knew it would leave a big, gaping hole in the plant? Or would you let it die?

Learning how to trust God fully makes more sense when you see it from a different perspective, huh?

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What Does It Mean to Trust God Completely?

Trusting God completely means letting him do surgery on you, even though you know it may leave a big, gaping hole and hurt like heck.

The surgery on the squash plant required a sharp knife and tweezers to remove the borers individually. Many times, God uses some of the same tools. He cuts into us and uses tweezers to remove destructive things that are hurting us.

Looking closely, you can see the gooey mess on the utensils, which was vine borer poop.

To make matters worse, it smelled when she cut into the plant.

Our sin is just as smelly.

Ultimately, my sister pulled out five squash borers within a four-inch span. She had no idea there were so many bugs in that small stalk area.

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She found one lurking on the ground right by the plant’s root. See how it was camouflaged? Satan does the exact same thing!

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Here (look below) is what the plant looked like after she cleaned it out thoroughly. It had a big hole, but there was a better chance the squash plant would live and bear fruit since the squash borers were gone. (Update: It did produce lots of squash.)

Are you catching the double meaning yet?

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The Remedy For Trusting God

Healthy soil is a long-term remedy for keeping predators away, and the same goes for us, too, spiritually. The remedy is good soil—God’s word, prayer, and worship.

After surgery, my sister added more compost to the roots. She will continue to deal with the root problem in the days to come with good soil.

Matthew 13:23 says, “But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown” (NIV).

Here is an interesting fact: When a plant is weak, it attracts predators to eat it. This is nature’s way of dealing with sick plants. Otherwise, millions of decomposing plants would be sitting around on the ground, smelling and attracting bugs.

Is your weakness drawing Satan’s to you? Are you smelly and don’t even know it? Run to God and believe His word; it will repel Satan!

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Why Do I Struggle to Trust God?

There may be a reason if you are struggling with how to trust God.

You may have attracted Satan and allowed him to root in your heart with sin (idols).

The problem is that we don’t know it. We look fine on the outside but are fearful, anxious, and lacking trust in God on the inside. (Those hidden sins are eating you.)

This is where the Master steps in and cuts out the sin (idols).

The knife He uses is usually in the form of a trial. We get cut, and it hurts. We have a gaping hole. In turn, we are shocked, even angry. And blame God.

Unfortunately, we are so blind to the calculated cuts that we don’t see his intentions. All the while we are wallowing in our stinky mess just like the vine borer in its poop.

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To add insult to injury, we miss the fact that Satan is lurking at our doorstep, constantly waiting to attack us, just like the borer who was camouflaged near the roots of the plant.

Our weakness drew him out.

1 Peter 5:8-9 says, “Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings” (NIV).

Are You Choosing God’s Perspective or Yours?

It’s all about perspective when learning how to trust God. If you were a bug on the ground looking up at the squash plant, you would see a big, gaping hole that looked horrific.

On the other hand, it would look much different if you were the gardener looking down on the stalk and root. You could see the lack of fruit,  the oozing stalk, and the five predators eating the plant near the root.

Perhaps you, too, are looking from ground level. You can’t see that God’s love involves cutting and tweezing you. Instead, all you see is a big, gaping hole.

However, cutting into you actually was an act of love (just like the cross).

This was the only way to prevent the vine’s death and spiritual death for you.

Oh, if we only had spiritual eyes to see the truth!

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How to Trust God Completely?

If you want to know how to trust God completely, you must look past the pain to the surgeon’s heart and see His love for you.

We don’t realize He hurts, too, just like my sister did when she saw her plant wasn’t thriving.

Like a loving father, He will not stand by and let us wallow in our mess forever. He will clean us up even though He knows we may blame Him for doing the most loving, compassionate thing at the time.

Furthermore, I realized I have often judged God without all the facts because I didn’t believe He was good—maybe to others, but not to me. It wasn’t until I accepted God’s love and believed He was good that things changed in my heart.

This was the foundation for how to trust God completely.

Ps. 34:8 says, “Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.” 

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 How to Trust God: Four Best Solutions

If you are tired of doing things your way and want to learn how to trust God completely, then do these four things:

1.  Admit you need help

If you have been trying to trust God for a while, you know you can’t do this alone. Like the helpless squash plant, you need the Master Gardner to take over and do surgery.

Ask the Holy Spirit to help you overcome the fear of completely trusting God. While this seems scary, picturing yourself as the squash plant in my story makes it easier. Honestly, you are helpless.

2.  Identify the idols

What squash borers (idols) are in the stalks of your life? Perhaps you can’t even see them and don’t know. All you know is that you don’t know how to trust God.

Instead, you are anxious, fearful, and lack faith. Here is a list of things that may be operating in your life and are more important than God:

  • Pride, success, prestige, what people say about you, fame
  • My ability to be in control, fix, manage, and manipulate situations or people
  • Desire for acceptance, love, affirmation, recognition
  • Approval from friends, family, job
  • Certain behaviors, achievements, or positions of you, your spouse, or your child
  • Money, possession, particular address, clothes, car
  • Child, spouse, parent’s, or friend’s love
  • Fear of poverty, rejection, death
  • Need to be understood, needed, right
  • People-pleasing, keep everyone happy
  • Obscess over protection, safety, security, health
  • Pleasure, food, drugs, alcohol, sex, vacation, addictions

3. Confess and Surrender

God wants us to confess and surrender everything to Him. Understand that certain things are beyond our control. Surrendering these matters to God can alleviate stress and anxiety, as you know He is guiding your path.

This is probably the hardest step. Like me, you may want to get involved, control, and manipulate the situation because you have previously felt so out of control.

Instead, God asks us to lay your idols at the cross and let go.

Galatians 2:20

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

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4. Reprogram with the truth

If you want to know how to trust God, take every thought captive and replace it with scripture or a short mantra whenever you have a negative thought. Mine is, “God is good; I can trust Him.” I say it repeatedly, and after months of saying it, I have finally started believing it.

Not only do you need to take every thought captive, but you can also turn every negative thought into a positive one. For example: “God doesn’t love me.” Say: “That’s not true. God loves me. John 3:16 says so.  I know God loves me. I will not believe Satan’s lies.”

It’s time to put a stake in the ground and change your thinking. I know it works because I have done it.

2 Corinthians 10: 5 says, “ We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

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Remember that trusting God doesn’t mean life’s challenges magically disappear. It’s about God’s  truth, remembering what God has done in the past, surrendering the present and future, and looking for guidance during your trial.

Next time you go through a trial, remember the squash plant and trust that even though you can’t see everything, God’s surgical hand is good. He is working on your behalf because He loves you.

You can trust the Master Gardener, God. He loves you and has a beautiful plan for your life.

Jeremiah 17:7-8

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.”

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29 Comments

  1. Thank you for this beautiful post and very apt analogy. It is VERY hard in trials to wonder what you have done that needs such pruning. But posts like yours through the Holy Spirit help understand- every single one of us is going through that feels unbearable and yet our Lord Jesus Christ carries us through it and it the Father’s heart that prunes is to bear more excellent fruit. I am learning to surrender- learning that ‘thy will’ willl always be better than mine, learning to serve and ‘do good’- smile, have a kind word, not lose my joy and smile in trials n tribulations as that shows I am trusting God Almighty beyond my feelings, thinking, circumstances. He has brought me out of darkness before, He will do it again and as I cling to Him and choose Him in the darkness – He preserves my soul, upholds my spirit and guides me in the way I should go. I pray for wisdom and a humble heart to understand, believe and recieve.

    • Lisa, it is hard to trust God when we see everything around us falling apart. Nevertheless, God is still in control.

  2. Thank you for this. I’ve been struggling so much as a foster parent to the point that I often want to quit. This is so encouraging. I know God is working in me and through me to make me what He wants me to be.

    • Crystal, I am so sorry. I wrote this post when I was knee-deep in a trial with my daughter. I can now look back and say it was the best thing that ever happened. And she would say the same thing. God has a way of using the most horrible situations for good. Keep praying even though it seems like an answer is not anywhere to be found. I highly recommend The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie O’Martian. My book is worn out. I used the prayers at the end of every chapter every day until I saw strongholds broken. Some of my prayers have taken years to come to fruition. You can do this! God has not left you.

  3. I love it, such profound message. A lot of things have happened recently in my life and I keep asking myself what’s the message God is trying to teach me. I keep telling myself it’s God’s way of testing me and maybe preparing me for something great to come. I know he’s watching out for me. Thank you for this wonderful post.

    • Anna, I am so glad this was a meaningful word picture for you. I keep going back to it when I am having a difficult time with something. I know the Master Gardener loves his plants and he wants them to thrive, but it sure doesn’t feel like it when he starts cutting. I guess I would rather have some cutting than being cut down and thrown in the fire because I am useless! Thanks for your comment.

  4. What an inspirational message here! Wow! God spoke to my heart through this. I need to share it. We – as a family – have been going through “surgery” lately. Many times we don’t understand why! and we get frustrated. But then we look up and we say, okay Lord, I trust you. I know you know better. Thank you for sharing this.

    • I am so glad God is using this post to help someone else. I never know if I am the only one getting surgery. Mentally, I have to keep going back to this word picture to understand God’s love. I am one of those that will start whining and wondering where God is in the mess.
      I will pray for grace to help you through your trials. I am so sorry you have been hit. Just know it is God’s love that will hold you through until the end.

  5. We had problems with squash bug in our garden too. very interesting way of connecting it with your faith..:)

    • Nature speaks in ways you can hear when maybe anything directly about God is offensive. Nature certainly does reflect life in so many ways. One has to wonder who is the Designer at some point!

  6. It is amazing how all the truths are all arounds us, literally staring us in the face all the time, but we have to be willing to see it, then understand and embrace in order really learn from it. There are many simple messages, much like this one happening daily, but our lives are too busy and convoluted, to stop and see them, let alone understand or interrupt them. This is why so many of us are so lost and are easily lead astray.

    • Jen, I couldn’t have said that any better. We are busy little creatures who don’t stop and look at the life lessons right in front of us every day.

  7. We must all go through hardships in order to learn and grow. Thank you so much for a wonderful post! Definitely made me think 🙂

    • Yes, every time I start to doubt God’s love, I think about the ways He has worked in the past. His loving hand has always guided me through the terrible heartaches. He is there through the surgery.

  8. What a beautiful, although sometimes painful truth! This has been a year of paring and pruning in my life. It has been painful at times. I have been praying for God to move in one specific area. Everything else I can take, but pressed in asking God to move because I believed it was his will. Yesterday, He did! It is so worth the pruning and paring when we know that God has His best interest at heart for us. Thanks for sharing!

    • What a wonderful thing to celebrate. I am so happy for you. God continues to prune so we have fruit some day. I like the fruit part, but the trail is not so fun for sure!

    • Yes, He is the vine and we are the branches. We get our life from Him. God is working even when we can’t see it. He wants us to have life and produce good fruit.

  9. I’ll admit, I fell out of sycn when you started the analogy, even though I’m a garden lover! But I’m so glad I read this post. I absolutely have been having issues, money and house too. Thank you for the chat about trials, the Lord knows I need to reflect on His purposes in this.

    • Thanks for staying in there with me until the end. It is a long post. I had a lot to explain! I am so sorry about your trials. I pray God will wrap His loving arms around you and you find the meaning behind the pain.

  10. Hi, it was such a blessing reading this post.. We all doubt and murmur when going through the trials without knowing that it is God’s way of showing Love to us. Thank you so So much!

    • Sara, thank you for your comment. I am so glad it blessed you. It is hard not to murmur when trials are upon us. I have to keep reminding myself that God is love. Everything He does runs through His loving hands. He does it with the utmost care and concern. I appreciate you reading this post.

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