Life-Changing Family Advice for Those Hurting
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Are you looking for some inspirational family advice? Perhaps you struggle with getting along with difficult people in your family.
If you are like me, you may have even shaken your fist at God in anger when you felt helpless. Yeah, I did that. And I am still alive…whew. (FYI: God can handle our anger.)
I didn’t think God loved me when my family problems started. In fact, I was incredibly angry at Him. Perhaps you are too.
The biggest thing I can tell you right now is to run to God with your pain. Not away from Him. I know it is hard, and maybe even seems ridiculous, but He is there waiting for you with open arms. He knows you are hurting.
In fact, He wants to show you how much He loves you, even in the midst of your family problems.
In this post, I am going to share the most life-changing family advice for those who are hurting from family problems. And how you can trust God’s plans to be good because of His love despite other’s behavior.
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Family problems are hard to navigate!
If you have been reading some of my other posts, you may already know I was estranged from my family for seven years. Sadly, it was one of the hardest things my family and I have ever lived through.
I hated the feeling of things not being right. I know my parents hated it too.
My parents did such a great job of bringing us all to Christ, but somewhere along the way, our wires got crossed, or uh, burned.
Frankly, our wires were so hot it about burned our house down (figuratively).
Unresolved hurts, expectations, and bitterness clouded our interactions with each other. Over time, it became a part of our family narrative.
The most puzzling piece to this puzzle is that we were all Christians when it happened. In fact, my family had been in Christian ministry for over 30 years. We knew better.
Unfortunately, it still happened.
Perhaps you know what I am talking about. I can’t tell you how many Christians I have talked to that are either barely speaking to their family members or there is a full-blown estrangement.
My question is, “Why are there so many difficult people in our families, especially when everyone claims to be a Christian?” Perhaps we need to go back to square one.
That is what I had to do. Go back to the beginning and find God’s love. Sounds strange, but that is where I started.
Life-Changing Family Advice
The most life-changing advice I can give you is to pray for God to show you His love. And then put down your expectations of how it will happen.
I was expecting Him to come in and save the day like a king on a horse. I wanted Him to miraculously fix my family situation and make things right.
Sound familiar? Maybe you want Him to show everyone who’s boss too. But that is not usually how it works.
Jesus came as a servant, not as a king on a horse. And that is how He still comes today–quietly loving you even though you may not love Him.
He doesn’t usually come in and fix everything like a magic genie.
Instead, He works on us daily through a process of growth and learning. And that includes working on the difficult people in our family. (You could actually be one of them!)
God’s Love is Radical
You see, God loved me in my horrible health crisis, in my anger, bitterness, and even my feelings of unforgiveness. The whole lousy mess. And then showed me a way out slowly. This is a radical concept that he would love me in such a state, but He did.
What is great is He can do the same for you.
Once you truly embrace how much He loves you, you can learn to trust His plan. When you release Him to work in the way He sees fit…things happen. Good things.
I let go of my plans and let God be God.
More importantly, He took my hand and helped me walk through my family problems to the other side. Not just as a Savior but as a friend. Side by side.
Your Family Problems
Perhaps you have some family problems that need to be resolved. Start with yourself and find God’s love. Work on your relationship with Him. If you are listening, He will guide you through your own healing and restoration, even if you don’t reconcile with your family. (Hopefully, you do…)
If it worked for me, and I know it will work for you.
This book will give you my story plus actionable steps to help you get along with difficult people in your family. And heal your own wounded heart in the process.
Do you have inspirational family advice for those who are hurting?
Got Family Problems? There is Help and Hope!
Are you experiencing family problems or even estranged? Are you feeling shame, anger, or rejection? Check out my book Estranged: Finding Hope When Your Family Falls Apart on Amazon or at your favorite digital store.
This book not only talks about my seven-year estrangement from my Christian family, but it also gives solid tips to help you with your family problems. Break free from your pain. Allow God to heal you no matter what has happened in your family of origin. There is hope when your family falls apart.
Creating Family Memories Book
Get Creating Family Memories. This book will help you manage your family in a way that allows more time to be intentional with your kids. It includes a schedule too. You can get it at your favorite bookstore.
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