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The Best Way to Change Your Teen Through Prayer

The best way to change your teen is through prayer.

How do I know?

I have raised two kids–a boy and a girl. They were great kids, but just like any other teen, they had areas in their life I could not change.

I can’t tell you how much nagging, pushing and, yes, controlling I did when they were teens. And what I got were short term results. Not the heart change I was desiring.

After years of frustration, I decided to start praying scripture over my kids. I inserted their name into certain verses.

It was then I started to see breakthroughs and changed attitudes. Not immediately, but God started working.

Over time, I started seeing new behaviors in the areas of concern. And these changes were lasting.

In this post, I am going to teach you how to change your teen through prayer. It can be used for any age, but the prayers I have composed are written with the intent of addressing issues during the ages of 12-19.

FYI: Don’t be shocked if things get worse before they get better. I have found strongholds have to break apart before they can be put back together on a solid foundation.

Related: How to Pray for Your Children

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How to Change Your Teen Through Prayer

1. Good Attitude

God, I lift up _____ to you, and I ask You to help him to do all things without grumbling or murmuring (Phil. 2:14-15). I ask you to remove the bad attitude and change my teen into someone who is teachable and willing to listen to authority (Phil. 2:3-5).

Please allow the sighing to flee (Isaiah 51:11) so that he will consider it all joy when tested (Jam. 1:2). I pray that all strife would cease, and you would replace it with a humble, contrite heart (Psalm 51:17).

Let joy and gladness overflow out of my son’s heart to the point of it touching other’s lives (John 15:11). I pray for his joyful heart to be contagious within our whole family.

Related: How to Get to Your Child’s Heart 

2. Wisdom

God, I ask for _______ to be known for listening to reproof so that she will be counted among the wise (Prov. 15:21). Let her stay away from the wicked whose words are perverse and foolish (Prov. 2:12). Help my teen to surround herself with people who speak wisely so she will learn from them (Prov. 22:17) and not be counted as a fool (Eccles. 10:12).

Let______hear the instruction of her father and mother so she will not be delivered into the hands of those who would oppress her (Neh. 9:26-27). Instead, I pray for your commands to make her wiser than her enemies as she goes throughout the day (Ps. 119:98).

Give _______  discernment to make wise choices when she leaves this home every day (Prov. 14:33). May her eyes and ears be opened to see the truth and remain in it even when others are choosing differently (Prov. 1:10) Help change my teen to see that wisdom is better than strength (Eccles. 9:16).

Related: The Most Powerful Parenting Tips (from Successful Teens) 

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3. Work Ethic

God, I ask you to help _______ to be disciplined in every area of his life. Let _____ not run away from hard work so that he will gain knowledge and not be counted as stupid (Prov 12:1). I pray for my son to embrace school work even though it may seem painful. Help him to see that studying reaps a great reward, and it pleases You (2 Tim. 2:15).

I ask that you would send other people (teachers, pastors, etc.)  into _____ life to encourage him to be the best person possible in every area. Don’t let my son run from reproof, but let it be a catalyst to do better (Prov. 3:11-12). God, change my teen to be more like You.

Thank you, God, for filling  _______ with the Spirit of God, skill, ability, and knowledge in all kinds of crafts (Ex. 31:3). Help me to encourage my teen to find his gifts early and for him to be motivated to develop these skills to the fullest potential. Please let him use these gifts to serve others faithfully so You get the glory (1 Peter 4:10).

4. Friends

I pray you would surround _______ with godly friends. If there are friends in my teen’s life who are a bad influence, I ask You to remove them from her life or change them to be like You. Let my teen choose her friends carefully so she will not be led astray (Prov. 12:26).

I ask You to remove the scales from my teen’s eyes so she will see the truth about who her friends really are  (Acts 9:18). Let ________ be repulsed when she sees others doing evil (Prov. 8:13). Help her to lose the desire to associate with those who do not follow Your ways.

Do not let my daughter join forces with the wicked, but deliver her so he will not be punished with the others (Prov. 11:21). Change my teen if she is a bad influence. Please change her to be like You so she will lead others into paths of righteousness (Daniel 12:3).

5. Addiction

I come against any addiction that would take root in _________ life. Please help my son to listen to advice and accept instruction so he will not fall into this horrible trap (Prov. 19:20). Keep him from hardening his heart from the reality that these substances will only bring death, not life  (Deut. 30:19).

I pray that if there is any temptation to experiment, You would take the desire away from him. Do not let sin be his master (Rom. 6:14). Replace the desire to please the world with the desire to please You, God (Gal. 1:10).

Change my teen if he has already set his foot in this trap. I pray for You mercy (Ps.23:6). Please deliver my teen from this desire and set him free (John 8:36). I pray my son would no longer live according to the flesh but will live according to the Spirit (Rom. 8:13). Thank you for complete deliverance in this area.

Related: When You Feel Like You Have Failed as a Parent

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6. You

Help me to be a blessing to my family and bring forth healing with my words (Prov. 16:24). God, I ask that I do not provoke my teen to anger. Help me to guide and direct him in all that is required daily (Eph. 6:4). I ask you to give me the strength to have a good attitude and praise you, God, so I can model this behavior for my teen (Exodus 15:2).

Let me model everything that I am praying for regarding my son/daughter. Help me have the endurance to follow after You in every area of my life so my teen will not stumble ( 1 Cor. 8:9). If there is any part of my life that is not pleasing to You, show me so I can change (Ps. 51:10).

God, I ask you to let me have a good relationship with my teen. Help me to know when to listen and when to speak. I ask you to guide my tongue so that it brings life and not death (Prov. 8:21). God, don’t just change my teen but change me too.

Related: 25 Things You Must Do to be a Good Parent

In Jesus name,


Praying Scripture

Praying scripture is the most effective way to see changes in your teen. If you want to create your own prayers, you can go to Bible Hub and put in your keyword. Scriptures will pop up. It will give you scriptures to pray over your own pain point.

Or you can get Stormie Omartian’s book The Power of a Praying Parent. It addresses most every issue your teen will face. This book changed my life (not an affiliate).

Remember not to get discouraged. It takes time for things to change.

Check out this post on praying for your husband. It is equally powerful!

Related: The Best Way to Change Your Husband Through Prayer

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  1. Edith on February 8, 2019 at 9:29 am

    Great post. The natural thing that parents do is worry and set a bunch of rules and this doesn’t help much. While it’s good to provide guidance, only God can make our children obey or desire to do right. So talking to Him as you have admonished, rather than fretting about them, is the way to go.

    • Julie Plagens on February 15, 2019 at 6:04 pm

      Edith, such wise words. Some rules and boundaries are good for kids to have but as they get older, there should be more responsibilities and fewer rules. It needs to be more about trust and relationship. This sounds really good on paper, not so easy to balance in real life. The best guidance is to pray for your teen and ask God for discernment.

  2. Jodie on January 29, 2019 at 8:30 am

    This will be a great resource for my friends struggling with their teenagers! Thank for you compiling.

    • Julie Plagens on January 29, 2019 at 2:04 pm

      Jodie, thanks for saying this. I hope it really helps!

  3. Lisa Kiesling on January 28, 2019 at 7:36 pm

    Excellent list and I love the scripture you aligned with those prayers. =)

    • Julie Plagens on January 29, 2019 at 2:05 pm

      Hey Lisa! You are so sweet to read this. So fun to have a friend lurking and commenting!

  4. Erin on January 27, 2019 at 11:05 pm

    Thank you for the variety of scriptures available for support in raising and praying for a teenager!

    • Julie Plagens on January 29, 2019 at 2:06 pm

      Erin, I truly hope these scriptures are a help with parents. I know praying for your teens seems so simple, but things really happen when you do it.

  5. Marcie Cramsey on January 27, 2019 at 5:43 pm

    This is such a great post! I love how you wove the prayers for teens into scripture. I love doing this for my children (who are grown now) and for others God has placed in my life. Great read!

    • Julie Plagens on January 29, 2019 at 2:08 pm

      Marcie, thank you so much for your comment. I am so glad you still pray even though your kids are grown. Thanks for reading.

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