Do you want to know how to change your husband without saying a word? Yes, it is possible! You have to be patient though. I know this hard to believe that you don’t have to say anything, but what I am telling really works. So what is the secret sauce?
If you want to know how to change your husband, then start praying.
Really. No, I mean, REALLY.
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I know some of you might think this is the craziest thing you have ever read, but I dare you to try it. Pray for him for several months and see for yourself.
It will change your husband (and you). Things may get a little worse for a time period, but then you will start seeing breakthroughs.
I found the best way to pray for your husband is to use scripture and add his name to the verse.
You can’t go wrong by praying God’s word back to God. It will always be the truth. You will be shocked at how powerful your prayers are when you do this.
I started this about 10 years ago, and it literally changed my marriage and family. Here are some ideas of what and how to pray.
How to Change Your Husband Through Prayer
Here are 5 prayers that will change your husband’s heart. These prayers are war room prayers you can pray every day to heal your marriage and/or protect it.
1. Pray for His Safety and Protection
Lord, I thank you right now for my husband, _____. I pray You would be with him wherever he goes. (Joshua 1:9) Protect him and keep him safe from harm. Keep him away from any kind of accident, sickness, or any other sort of destruction the evil one may have planned. I pray _______ would fear no evil as You are always with him, guiding him and directing him to a straight path. (Ps 23:4)
Give _____ discernment so as not to take any unnecessary risks or walk into a place of danger. Keep him safe from the enemy who is out to kill, steal, and destroy. (John 10:10) May all plans be thwarted and canceled by whoever may wish to harm him. God, I ask for You to be his refuge and his strength, and ever-present help in trouble. (Ps 46:1)
Believe me, this kind of prayer is how to change your husband.
2. Pray for Direction
Help my husband, ______, to lead me (and our family) in a direction that would be pleasing to You. Let him hear Your voice and be able to discern Your will for all of us. ( Jer. 33:3) I know it is easy to get distracted with all of the responsibilities that go with being a husband, father, and provider.
Show him how to juggle each responsibility with grace and wisdom knowing that You alone can lead him properly. I pray You would be his example as You are his Shepherd; leading him beside still waters. I ask for his soul to be refreshed. I pray goodness and mercy would follow him all the days of his life, and he would dwell in Your house forever. (Ps 23)
This is how to change your husband through prayer.
3. Pray for His Job
I give my husband’s job to you. I know that he may not like everything about it, but I pray he would not be weary in doing good. (Gal 6:9) I ask that _______ would be tenacious and not give up. Bless everything he puts his hands on; may he reap a harvest in due season. (Gal. 6:9)
May ______ always give careful and close attention to his work, but not be out of balance where he is working too much. Help him not to be overbearing, short-tempered, or greedy. I also pray he would not have a propensity towards laziness.
Instill in my husband a desire to be hard-working, diligent, and responsible with everything he has been given to do. (Eccles. 9:10) Thank you, God, for providing us with a stable income. If my husband is ever out of work, I pray you will quickly open doors for him to gain new employment.
God, I ask that if _______ is not in the right occupation, you will show him what he is to be doing. I know that you gave him gifts that are irrevocable. (Romans 11:29) Help him to use his gifts to serve you as well as others.
I pray nothing would be devoured, lost, or stolen from us. (1 Peter 5:8) I give everything we own to You, God. Help us to manage it wisely. I pray you would help us to be disciplined to give a tithe back to you so that we will be in complete obedience to your will. (Mal. 3:8-12)
4. Pray for Help in Trials
God, I know I cannot protect my husband from everything. I do, however, pray for You to be there with _____ as he goes through trials. I pray he will cast his burdens on You, and that you will sustain him in times of trouble. (Psalms 55:2)
Help me to love, support, and pray for him daily. (Philippians 4:6-7) Show me how to be a godly wife and the kind of woman who is encouraging to him.
Even though _______ may be pressed on every side, show him he is not crushed. I pray he would not have a heart of despair. Help him to know that You will never abandon him in times of trouble. ( 2 Cor. 4:8-9) Thank you, God, that those who trust and seek you will not be forsaken. (Psalms 9:10) Praying these things is how to change your husband.
5. Pray He Will Be a Godly Husband
I ask that my husband would truly understand how to love me, and I would learn how to love him. (1 Cor 13) I pray we will follow all the principles you have set for us so that we will have a healthy and vibrant marriage. (Eph 5:22-33)
Help us to be quick to forgive each other so that things will not fester between us. (Eph. 4:32)
I pray _____ will seek You with a humble and teachable spirit. (Proverbs 15:33) Teach my husband how to truly be a godly husband and a great leader in our marriage. Help me to be the kind of wife who will lovingly support him and not tear him down. (Prov. 31:10)
How Do I Cover My Husband in Prayer?
If you want to know how to change your husband and cover him in prayer, then pray daily. This is not a one and done. If you want to make a powerful impact then add these two things to your prayer life:
1. Encourage your husband
Your marriage will improve much faster if you will replace the nagging, berating, or manipulating with encouragement. Continue to pray and add encouragement. For 30 days say only positive and encouraging things to him and about him publicly and privately. Nothing negative. Nada.
I know this may be a struggle, but just close your mouth a breathe. Overlook the dirty socks he leaves on the floor, the dirty dishes in the sink, and anything else. Catch him doing good and jump on that! Say “thank you” for his efforts. (Don’t overlook abuse.)
Skip a meal or two or three… and replace the time with prayer. Or do a media fast if you can’t go without food.
Fasting, prayer, and encouragement are how to change your husband and your marriage. It is the triple threat.
Doing any or all of these things will change the way you feel about your spouse. It will transfer over into your tone of voice, your non-verbals, and your spirit. And that is everything because he will notice something is different.
As you can see, heart change starts with you first.
When it comes down to it, you can only change yourself.
I encourage you to try it. After all, what do you have to lose?
*You don’t have to use my prayers. You can go to the Bible and make your own prayers. These are just ones to start with right now. Stormie Omartian’s book The Power of a Praying Wife is also a great resource.
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