Parenting Tips: When Your Baby Leaves Home For Good
Is your baby leaving home soon? If not soon, one day this will happen to you.
It seems like yesterday I brought mine home from the hospital. I had no idea what to do with him, and, yet, I knew how to do everything when the time came.
My mother instincts kicked in the moment I held him in my arms to nurse. He attached to me like we had been together for years. We had, after all, been together for 9 months before he was born.
In those 9 months, I thought about my son almost every moment praying that each organ, muscle, fingers, and toes would be developed normally. I prayed he would be healthy.
Related: How to Pray for Your Children
Most of all, I prayed I would carry him the full nine months. It had been a troubled pregnancy at some points. All of those prayers were answered and more.
My beautiful son was perfect in every way. He was a miracle, as every child is when they take their first breath. It is hard to believe this same baby leaves home for good in a couple of days.
Gifts and Talents
I am still amazed that the things my son liked when he was 3 are still the things he enjoys today. The outdoors (hunting and fishing), building, and talking with people are his gifts. And he will be using these same gifts to make a living.
The little guy who “welded” our wall is the same guy 20 years later who has landed a job in the building industry. I still remember him asking what was inside the walls when he was 2 years old. Who asks that?
And that little boy who made new friends with everyone at the park every time we went is still engaging with people today. That fun personality would be the very thing he would need to make a living selling in the construction industry.
And fishing. He has now become a master fly fisherman who will live near those gold medal streams. He knows the life cycle of every bug from Texas to California. I’m sure he will entertain a few clients with this gift.
I didn’t teach my son his natural gifts. He was already hard-wired to be a certain way. God gave him some very special talents. We nurtured and encouraged them, but that is all. My son did the rest.
It was fun watching him develop each one of these areas. We didn’t know how it would play out for him. My son has definitely kept us guessing right until the very end. Perhaps you are wondering about your child.
Will he make it through this thing called childhood? My advice is to keep working on character, most of all. The rest will come in due season. If your child has good character it will transfer into all areas of his life. And that will pay the biggest dividends when he walks out the door.
That little person I delivered on Labor Day 23 years ago has now turned into an incredible man. I can only thank God for this because there were many days I felt inadequate. My husband and I spent many hours on our knees asking God what to do next.
I never had brothers, so I didn’t know the first thing about raising boys. The mystery started the first time I changed his diaper all the way to college and landing his dream job.
My husband and I both have learned so much through the whole parenting process. We learned we needed God. It was more than we could handle alone.
We found we didn’t have to have the answers to everything, just the next step. As my son has aged, he has had an integral part in choosing the next step.
And then one day he totally took the next step on his own with God’s help. When my baby leaves our home this week I will be sad but at peace.
We have been preparing him for this day his whole life. He is finally going to fly out of the nest on his own. He is his own man, and I couldn’t be more proud.
Related: How to Get to Your Child’s Heart
When Your Baby Leaves Home
When your baby leaves home you will look back on all those mundane days at home and realize how important those hours really were. You are building character and nurturing those talents and gifts or wasting time by not being intentional.
Cherish the time you have with your children. Make your days count for something. Nurture those gifts. One day, when your baby leaves home, you will look back on your time with him/her and realize it’s all over.
You have only been given a certain amount of days, and then they are gone. Good or bad it will be done.
The only thing left will be your memories. Memories of welding the wall, days in the park, and fishing in every stream between here and the Colorado River.
You are charged with doing the best you can today, and then leaving the rest up to God. Trust that He will take your child’s talents and gifts and use them to fly solo someday. You will be so grateful you did.
What talents and gifts have you noticed in your kids?
Got Big Family Problems? There is Help!
Are you experiencing family problems or even estranged? Are you feeling shame, anger, or rejection? Check out my book Estranged: Finding Hope When Your Family Falls Apart on Amazon or at your favorite digital store.
This book not only talks about my seven-year estrangement from my Christian family, but it also gives solid tips to help you with your family problems. Break free from your pain. Allow God to heal you no matter what has happened in your family of origin. There is hope when your family falls apart.
Creating Family Memories Book
Get Creating Family Memories. This book will help you manage your family in a way that allows more time to be intentional with your kids. It includes a schedule too. You can get it at your favorite bookstore.
Join Christian Family Living Facebook Group
Continue the conversation on Facebook and join the group Christian Family Living. This is a place for Christian women to share their experiences and get helpful tools to navigate the Christian life. We love to laugh, cry, and encourage each other to live out our faith one day at a time.
Check Out Pinterest
For Parenting Tips, Crafts, Baby Care, Pre-School, Teens, Family Activities, And Much More!