Faith and marriage. Is there any real connection between the two? Is faith that important for a married couple?
The short answer is a resounding, “Yes!” Faith is so important it can save you from a divorce.
What you and your spouse think and believe about God will directly impact your relationship.
Many people don’t take the time to figure this out until they are married. And then they spend most of their married life treating each other poorly because they do not have the Holy Spirit convicting them of bad behavior.
In this post, we will discuss why faith and marriage are inseparable and the impact it has on your relationship. And how faith in God can save you from a divorce.
Why is Faith Important In Marriage?
So why is faith important? Faith impacts your life in every way, even if you don’t have faith at all. Your morals and values will be at the core of how you treat your spouse.
The Holy Spirit is the only one who can help you love deeply with a covenant love, not a contractual love.
Even if you and your spouse do have faith, eventually it can get messy if you aren’t practicing biblical values and listening to God.
Therefore, the sooner you and your spouse get on the same page, the better. Otherwise, you are going to have some difficult days ahead of you.
Ask why faith and marriage are important now instead of after the wedding.
Here’s a biblical verse about faith and marriage: “Don’t team up with those who are unbelievers. How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness?”(2 Cor. 6:14).
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What Does Faith Mean In a Marriage?
Faith is a belief system in God that includes biblical values. Faith impacts our lives in every area. It impacts our work ethic, what we say, how we behave on a daily basis, etc. Faith is especially important when it comes to how we treat our spouse.
Here are four ways faith and marriage intersect in your life. Only one of them puts Jesus at the center of your marriage.
1. God is my servant
Perhaps you have been told that if you believe in God, all of your problems will go away, and you will get whatever you pray for if you just believe.
You expect the same thing from your spouse. It’s all about you, and your needs. Everything revolves around what you feel, think, and want.
Your marriage is not a team. There isn’t much room for the other person (or Jesus). Basically, you are selfish.
Impact on faith and marriage:
If you carry this belief system into your marriage, you will probably be spending an enormous amount of time trying to get your needs met instead of serving your spouse.
Over time, you will be frustrated because neither God nor your spouse has met all your needs. One day you will wake up realizing you are surrounded by lots of things, but dissatisfied and empty.
You will look at your spouse as a disappointment, not realizing there are two people in the marriage. Faith and marriage have two common denominators: they both require the heart of a servant.
2. God is rules, not a relationship
Perhaps you think believing in God is more about rules than a relationship. You believe He exists, but you don’t understand His love and grace. Instead, you default to control.
You are constantly angry when your spouse breaks the rules, but you overlook your own sins. Additionally, you judge harshly, perhaps you are even critical. You find it hard to forgive or encourage your spouse.
Instead, you tear down, not realizing that you are tearing yourself down too because you are one.
Impact on faith and marriage:
Your legacy will be more about unforgiveness, a critical spirit, and maybe even a broken relationship.
If you do stay together, you may find you are constantly nit-picking each other and don’t feel safe.
A happy marriage is the union of two forgives. It is based on constant encouragement and positivity. It’s not that you don’t address problems, it’s that you approach them as a team with grace and truth.
3. God is disengaged or doesn’t exist
You are angry about difficult situations that have happened to you, your spouse, or others. Perhaps you believe a loving God would never allow suffering.
You do not understand real love means allowing free will, even if that means hard things happen. ( Satan is a controller, which is the opposite of love.)
Because you are not connected to a loving God, you will not know how to truly love.
The truth is that only by being in a relationship with God are you empowered to love others, including your spouse.
Impact on faith and marriage:
Lack of faith and isolation from God translates into a marriage with no direction. In fact, you are your own God.
It’s more about following your own set of rules, with anger at the core of your belief system. Eventually, your marriage will become a moral vacuum, leaving little to no room for real unity, intimacy, or committed love.
Your family legacy will be one of heartache.
If you are not connected to something greater than yourself, you will not have the ability to truly love your spouse without accepting God’s love first.
4. God is Lord and Savior
The best choice for you and your spouse is to accept Jesus as Lord and Savior and practice His commandments. Coming to this point in a marriage is not easy.
Usually, we try everything else before we humble ourselves before God and give up striving. It doesn’t feel natural to put our hands down and let Him guide our actions.
Yet, this is what he asks. He wants us to give our lives over to Him so He can transform us into His image.
It requires leaning into the Holy Spirit so you can serve, forgive, and love deeply. This is how faith and marriage are connected.
Impact on faith and marriage:
Faith in God translates into a healthy marriage. It’s about lovingly instilling biblical morals and values in your relationships. This philosophy creates a deep love between couples and an overall feeling of security.
This doesn’t mean you don’t act selfishly, struggle to forgive, or put your spouse first. What it means is the Holy Spirit will redirect you back to the right path and help you make amends when you have failed.
And then you can start again loving the right way.
If you follow Jesus, your legacy will be one of healthy relationships built on something greater than yourself.
You will pass down a heart of forgiveness that flows freely through not only your marriage but also your family system. Most of all, grace will abound.
If you want faith and marriage in your life, you must practice this pattern of forgiveness and restoration.
How Do You Apply Faith in Marriage?
Faith is not simply just believing in God, it requires action. When you follow God, your behavior changes. You no longer want to act in a way that is sinful. In marriage, it means you want to treat your spouse with kindness, love, and forgiveness.
If you are not at the point of believing in God, I suggest you start somewhere. Read the book of John in the Bible so faith and marriage are a part of your life.
Then start a conversation with your spouse. Ask why faith and marriage are important. It is better to be proactive than reactive.
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Why Is Faith Important In Relationships?
Faith and marriage aren’t just important, faith is important in all your relationships, especially parenting.
You need an extraordinary kind of love to deal with kids. More importantly, they are watching you.
How you love them will be more important than anything else in their lives. The love of Jesus poured out onto them is way more powerful than anything else you can give.
Are you ready to trade in your raggedy old sinful nature and love your spouse and family with a pure love that supersedes your capability? Allow the everlasting love of Jesus to flow through you and learn to love in a new way.
Here’s a faith and marriage prayer:
Here’s a sample prayer you can use as a starting point, but feel free to personalize it to your own beliefs and circumstances:
We come before you today with hearts full of gratitude for the gift of faith and marriage. We thank you for the partner you have brought into our lives, for the journey we’ve embarked on together, and for the many blessings we have experienced.
As we navigate the challenges and joys of married life, we ask for your guidance and wisdom. Grant us the strength to maintain and grow our faith, not only in you but also in each other. Help us to remember that marriage is a sacred covenant, a reflection of the love and commitment You have for us.
Lord, we pray for the faith to trust in your divine plan for our marriage, even when we face difficulties and uncertainties. Give us the patience to serve each other, the empathy to support one another, and the grace to forgive when needed. Help us to communicate openly and honestly, always seeking to build each other up.
May our marriage be a source of joy, love, and inspiration to those around us. We ask for your blessing, protection, and provision in our marriage. Keep our hearts connected, our love enduring, and our faith unwavering.
In Jesus’ name we pray,
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