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25 Things You Must Do to Be a Good Parent.

Do you wonder if you are a good parent? When my kids were younger, I didn’t always know if I was doing the right thing. I felt like everyone else was always a step ahead of me.

Now that my kids are grown, I realize there were many things my husband and I did do right. We weren’t perfect parents, but because we did these 25 things, it off-set some of our mistakes. If I were to do it all over, I would make sure to include these things again.

Here are the twenty-five things you must do to be a good parent:

  1. Read to your children when they are young.

  2. Assign a few chores

  3. Attend church regularly as a family.

  4. Get your child involved in the church youth group.

  5. Teach abstinence.

  6. Encourage your child to go on a mission trip or volunteer when older.

  7. Participate in missions as a family.

  8. Eat together at the table as a family. No phones or TV.

  9. Check your child’s grades regularly and communicate with teachers. 

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10. Teach delayed gratification.

11. Attend your child’s sporting/school events.

12. Don’t allow your child to be disrespectful. 

13. Set limits on your child’s phone time and content access. Put blocks on screened things.

14. Keep all screened things out of the bedroom after bedtime.

15. Check your child’s texts, social media regularly.

16. Allow your child time to play. Don’t over schedule.

17. Encourage your teen to be involved in school whether it is sports, clubs, band, etc.

18. Sign up for only one sport per season.

19. Use Find Friends or another app so you know the location of your child.

20. Pray with and for your child regularly.

21  Get a pet.

22. Be consistent. Follow through with what you say.

23. Develop a relationship with your child.

24. Listen. Don’t yell.

25. Create fun, family memories.

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Creating Good Family Memories

Dr. James Dobson says there is more to raising children than just rules and regulations. What worked in past generations doesn’t work now. You have to create good family memories to bond. Laugh and enjoy each other.

Being a good parent means you have to stay engaged with your kids. When you develop a good relationship with your kids early on, there is a better chance they will want to do the right things when they get older.

Josh McDowell said it best. “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion.” If all you do is have a bunch of rules but no fun, your kids will resent you. There is more to parenting than making kids obey. On the other hand, having no rules is a disaster, too. Learn to balance your family with these 25 things so you will be a good parent.

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What do you do to create good family memories? Leave a comment below.

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31 Comments

  1. tina on October 4, 2018 at 7:47 am

    But the bigger question is, how on earth to be a good parent if you don’t believe in god? Oh wait…. just be one, got it!

  2. Jyoti on September 8, 2018 at 8:51 pm

    Great advice for the parents.
    Will surely refer it to my sister who’s momma of a small baby. Keep sharing more.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:48 pm

      Jyoti, thanks. I hope this will help her.

  3. Emily M Wood on August 30, 2018 at 6:54 pm

    My husband is a youth minister and I couldn’t AMEN some of the things you included in this list enough!!!! THANK YOU!!! As a mom of three boys, I can totally relate to doubting myself as a parent….but I just try to remind myself that the Lord loves my boys more than I do…so if I contantly look to HIM for wisdom and guidance (and if I am obedient in what HE asks me to do), HE will keep me on the right track!

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:50 pm

      Emily, so true. God does love our kids more than us. The 25 things you must do to be a good parent are just a start. I am sure the Holy Spirit can add a few more!

  4. Madison at The Weaver Fam on August 29, 2018 at 10:15 pm

    This is such a great list! Getting your kids involved in church is SO important. I also think praying for your kids daily is another way to be a good parent.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:52 pm

      Madison, I think that is so huge too. Having my kids in a church made all the difference. I think parents can get so busy they forget one the 25 things you must do to be a good parent is to remember God. Actually, that is number 1!

  5. Apryl @ Money Wise Steward on August 29, 2018 at 10:52 am

    I Love this list! I love #13, #23 and praying. My girls are almost 14 years and we have built such a great relationship. I’m not their friend but I listen like a friend and then speak into them. The #1 thing I do is pray for them. They are at a point in their life that they need to make their own decision to follow Christ. I used to be able to make this choice for them but now they need to make it themselves. I’m so thankful for prayer!

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:54 pm

      Apryl, I am so glad you are praying for your kids. There is nothing more powerful than prayer. God is with them even when we are not. I hope the 25 things you do to be a good parent will always include prayer.

  6. Kristi Woods on August 29, 2018 at 9:43 am

    Volunteering at Salvation Army became a beloved family memory. Glad to see volunteering is on list. Was pivotal for our family.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:54 pm

      Kristi, volunteering has been life changing for my family. We still like to do this as a family even though everyone is grown. Thanks for your comment.

  7. karen on August 29, 2018 at 8:53 am

    i love this list. not only do i think we need to do these things to be good parents, we need to do them to raise good human beings.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:56 pm

      Karen, so true. The 25 things we do to be a good parent are basic concepts for life. So sad many parents miss the most basic things to do with their kids.

  8. Rebecca Jones on August 29, 2018 at 2:13 am

    Solid advice for parents. And especially foster parents who may be dealing with behavior problems.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:57 pm

      Rebecca, that is such an amazing ministry. I can’t imagine how they deal with such deep pains and sorrow without including God.

  9. Yolanda on August 28, 2018 at 7:16 pm

    I was eager to read this list as I’m always curious how other parents do it! It seems we are on the same page 🙂 I completely agree with only choosing one sport per season. We are heavily involved (volunteering) in our local baseball team and so many kids are signed up for multiple sports and therefore can’t commit to anything – which negatively affects the whole team. Family dinners are a huge one for me too, but my husband grew up differently than I so it can be a challenge to get him on board sometimes.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 1:59 pm

      Yolanda, I know it is hard to do a family dinner when kids need to eat early. I would read to my kids many of those meals. I made the best of it. When they were older, we were able to eat together more. Schedules are busy. We do what we can.

  10. Kristin Cook on August 28, 2018 at 6:25 am

    I am very glad that my family took the time to interact with me, develop a relationship with me, and teach me many of these things 🙂

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:00 pm

      Kristin, what a blessing to have a family who did all of these things. I bet you will pass the 25 things you must do to be a good parent on to your kids.

  11. Alyssa Dawson on August 27, 2018 at 11:58 pm

    I really liked this list! I had such a hard day today and am hoping to be better at these tomorrow!

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:00 pm

      Alyssa, every day is a new day. You can start again tomorrow with a clean slate. Prayer will help give you strength when it is tough.

  12. Elizabeth Edgar on August 27, 2018 at 5:26 pm

    I love that quote, “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion!” So true. Great tips to be a good parent.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:02 pm

      Elizabeth, yes. I know it is easy to slap down a bunch of rules and be done. Parenting takes lots of time and interaction. It is not a business that is cold and calculated. It is about relationships.

  13. Jamie Boettcher on August 27, 2018 at 11:55 am

    Great list of ideas, some quite simple to implement. The part – Josh McDowell said it best. “Rules without relationship leads to rebellion” – is so true about our Almighty Favorite her, isn’t it?

    • Jamie on August 27, 2018 at 11:56 am

      Almighty Father ! (Typo)

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:04 pm

      Jamie, I hope they are easy to do. I think parents are overwhelmed already. Thanks for your comment.

  14. Donna Miller on August 27, 2018 at 11:47 am

    I love this post! I wish I had been a Christian all the years of raising my girls. I had so much regret about it but God wants me to know that He can redeem all the time. I can’t spend anymore of my time in regret now. We have been bonding with our girls for all their lives and will continue to do so. Thank you for this wonderful post!! ❤

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:05 pm

      Donna, God is a God of redemption. I am glad you are taking the time to be with your kids and build a good relationship now. Every day still counts. They need you now more than ever.

  15. stacey on August 26, 2018 at 12:13 am

    I love most of these ideas. And yes we do question our parenting skills, but I think that in itself makes us good parents. I think reading to and encouraging reading was always important to use. This one thing encouraged imagination, curiosity and increased their volcabulary and ability to engage with other people.

    • Julie Plagens on March 23, 2019 at 2:08 pm

      Stacey, I always hope parents are doing these things before they enter school. It is important to encourage imagination early.

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