Do you want to know how to make mom friends? It sounds easy until you throw in work, schedules, sports, church, etc. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
If you are an introvert, making new mom friends can feel like going to the dentist…naked. There is this feeling of pain and exposure all at once.
If you have been burned by other moms in the past, you might be thinking, “What do I say?” or “Will they like me and my child? Others of you may be thinking, ” I don’t have time for other people’s drama. The last time I tried making friends, the mom dumped her kids on me…”
This may be why you struggle to make mom friends easily. The good news is there is hope, I have done all the work for you. I have 19 easy ways to show you how to make mom friends that last.
These tips have worked for me (an introvert), so I know they will work for you too. You’ve got this. Take a deep breath and relax. Making new friends as a mom is supposed to be fun! It’s time to push yourself. Chances are there is a mom feeling the exact same way you do. You just need to connect.
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Why Do We Need Mom Friends?
Some of you may wonder why you need mom friends. I get that, but eventually, you may get lonely. Before you ditch the idea, consider the long-term effects if you don’t put yourself out there.
Consider making mom friends for these reasons:
1. Mom friends not only give you companionship, but it is also good for your kids too. Your kids need people outside the home to play with and practice their social skills so they will be school-ready.
2, Mom friends are a great resource for parenting. I can’t tell you how many times I have learned about a great product, discipline tactics, or fun parenting ideas because I was around other moms.
3. Mom friends are important for encouragement and moral support. There is nothing like another mom to be there for you in good and bad times. No one understands more than another woman who is going through some of the same things as you.
Don’t discount meeting new moms. They will help you keep your sanity through some of the toughest years of your life. If you are an introvert, I get it. It may be a little harder to take a risk, but once you learn how to make mom friends, it’s worth it!
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How Can An Introvert Make Mom Friends?
Full disclosure here, I struggled with how to make mom friends as an introvert. I am embarrassed to say that I was too scared to go to MOPS at our church. I didn’t know if the women would be nice to me.
Truthfully, I was scared of rejection. I struggled with friendships because I didn’t want to risk getting hurt.
After a while, I got so lonely I decided rejection was better than not trying. I kept repeating, “If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.”
If you are tired of being alone, make the first move. Start making plans with mom friends once a week. That way it is not overwhelming. And you can slowly decide if you want to continue.
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How Do Stay at Home Moms Make Friends?
Here are 19 ways to help you start making friends as a mom. These tips are things I did when my kids were younger, and they worked.
Today, I have friends at church, in the neighborhood, at school, and in social groups. Making mom friends in different circles has been helpful with carpooling, kids’ activities, spiritual support, and just being social.
If you want to know how to make mom friends in your area, check out these easy tips:
1. Attend events in your local neighborhood. Many neighborhoods do Easter egg hunts, Christmas parties, or some other holiday celebration. Make sure you get the phone numbers of other moms while you are there so you can call them later.
2. Go to your neighborhood park. Strike up a conversation with some of the moms. Ask to meet for a playdate at the park again, and then eventually, at your home. This is one of the best ways to make mom friends in your neighborhood.
3. Join a Sunday School class for young marrieds or single moms. Get to know the moms in class and then venture outside of class.
4. Join a prayer group with other young moms. Prayer unites friends rather quickly. This is how to make mom friends who are Christians.
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5. Take walks in your neighborhood with your kids. Stop and talk to the other families when you go on a walk. This is how to make friends as a new mom.
6. Form a group. Put together a mom’s night out in your neighborhood. Advertise on the Nextdoor App and put fliers in your neighbor’s mailboxes with the details. This is how to make friends as a single mom or married.
7. Be a room mom at your child’s school. This is how to make mom friends at your child’s school.
8. Volunteer at school in the lunchroom, library, or PTA. This is how to make mom friends as an introvert. Just show up at a neutral place and engage with people.
9. Invite lots of kids and parents to your child’s birthday party. Take time to visit with the moms and even ask if they will help you serve cake or some other small task.
10. Go to birthday parties with your kids and visit with the moms. Ask the hostess if you can help. Working alongside someone is a how to make mom friends that last.
11. Join a group. Attend a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group near you. There are other groups such as stroller walking groups, exercise groups for moms, etc. This is how to make mom friends in your city.
12. Go to sports/dance practice and wait with the other moms. Talk with other moms. It is an easy way to develop a relationship over time without pressure.
13. Have the neighborhood kids over and include the moms. This is a fun way to get to know the whole family on an impromptu basis. Offer ice cream and then sit outside and watch the kids play.
14. Host a block party for the families in your neighborhood. Ask other moms to help you organize the party so they buy into the idea and have ownership.
15. Join a Bible study with other young moms (I recommend BSF). This is how to make mom friendships that will be lifelong spiritual encouragers.
16. Join or create a babysitting club within your church group or neighborhood. This is a great way for your kids and you to have a night out for free.
17. Volunteer at your place of worship in the pre-school or elementary-age area. Meet other parents who are also volunteering. This is how to make mom friends at church.
18. Use Mom apps to connect with other moms. Yes, there is how to meet moms friends…it’s with a mom friend app! Who knew you could meet local moms through the internet? I have not personally used this method so I would love some comments in the section below on how this has worked for you. This is how to make mom friends in a new city.
19. Join a Facebook group. I have one called Christian Family Living. I would love for you to join right now! This is how to make mom friends online.
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Why Is It Hard to Make Mom Friends?
Making mom friends is hard because it takes time. It is like dating. You have to not only think about yourself but also consider if it is a good match for your child. Don’t immediately forge into a fast and furious friendship with another mom. You may find that her child is a hellion or your kids act horribly together.
I suggest you get to know the other mom well before you start swapping kids. Her parenting style may be very different than yours. It is good to watch how she disciplines her kids when she is with you. That will tell you a lot about how she is going to treat your child when you are not there.
Making friends as a mom is also hard because you are looking for safe people who will love you and your child. Once you do find mom friends, hold them close because they are a precious relationship worth keeping.
How do you make mom friends in your area? Comment below, and tell me how the mom apps have worked for you!
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Thanks for the tips. I am an introvert as well and being in communities has really helped me to make mom friends.
It’s funny that so many bloggers are introverts. I think we enjoy hanging out behind a screen!
These are great ideas! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for commenting.
What a wonderful post! I love that you brung attention to this. When you have kids, it may be hard to think about yourself and your social life. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Thanks, Lavanda. I appreciate your comments. Social life gets put on the back burner when you have kids.
A few of my mommy friends have joined mom social groups where they on park playdates
I am so glad they are doing this. Thanks for your comment.
Great post! I started a mom’s prayer group and have made the best friends ever. These are great tips and I am a witness that God-friends are the best friends!
A mom’s prayer group is the best. Thanks for the comment.
Making good friends is so important as a mother, I mean I always hear it takes a village. Besides who else would better understand what you are going through than someone going through it with you.
Only another mom can really understand. Thanks for your comment.
You are blessed to have them! I am not a mom yet but I thought about it before as I am an introvert, it will be a bit difficult for me. These are great tips!
Actually, I am an introvert, too. It is a little hard to put yourself out there, but it is good to do. Thanks for the comment.
These are great tips. I am often the youngest of the moms so I’m still trying to get acquainted but I will try these out! Thanks
I hope one of these solutions will help you. Thanks for your comment.
I can imagine how difficult it would be to be left with your child all day every day and have no connection to the outside world. I would have loved to have provided a respite for my ex. She never seemed to want it. I think that was a problem but it doesn’t matter at this point. These are good reasons to still have connections post having a child.
I am so sorry. I wish things had worked out. It is hard being at home all day without a reprieve. Thanks for your comment.
My wife met some of her mommy friends when she had our first child through a Facebook group in our neighbourhood. She still hangs out with them till now. These are some of the strongest bonds that she has with her friends.
That is so good to hear. Facebook is an awesome way to connect. I am so glad someone created a neighborhood group. How clever!
It’s nice to have a mom posse. I love the suggestion of the Bible group.
Rosey, this is where all of my friends have come from. Nothing like spiritual things to connect each other. Thanks for reading.
This is so tough one for me. My son is 10 and I am much younger than most parents. It is very hard to connect with other parents, I shall use some of your tips to hopefully make some great mom friends. I could really use them when my husband is deployed which is often.
Jessica, I am so sorry. I know it must be lonely. I have heard that military wives usually find each other and bond. I hope you can find some that don’t mind the age difference. Everyone needs a friend! Thanks for your comment.
Finding mom friends has been a struggle for me. With my eldest, I was really young and most of my friends didn’t have kids, so we ended up drifting apart because we had nothing in common. Now, with my twins, I’ve made lots of casual friends – we chat at school pick up and such. But, finding some deeply connected mom friends has been a really big challenge for me – maybe I can use some of your tips 🙂
Nicole, I hope you can find some good friends through one of these avenues. The church is one of the best places to find them. Visiting churches might be good for your whole family. I hope you will think about it.
very encouraging. I’m not very social, I’m always waiting for someone to speak to me. This is a helpful list. Thank you.
I know how you feel. Sometimes I get kinda quiet. I push myself to speak first so I have some sort of control of the conversation.
What a honest and helpful post! When I was in New York, I created a meet-up group and named it ‘International Mom’. My son was 7 and we had very good times with kids.
Such a wonderful idea. Moms are creative when they want friends. Thanks for your comment
These are some great tips. I think it’s very important for moms to have friends that are mom’s also. Great support group!
Yes, it is. But I think women, in general, need friends. Good friends are hard to find. Thanks for your comment.
These are great tips for making friends when you are a new mom. I don’t have children but I do have a friend who just had one and i know how she has 0 free time at the moment.
It’s hard when you don’t have kids, but your best friend does. It is a big life shift. It is easy to feel replaced. I hope you will be able to maintain your friendship. Thanks for your comment.
These are some great tips for finding good mom friends! I will definitely save a couple of these. Thank you!!
Brittany, thanks for you comment. I hope it will be helpful.
Making Mom friends can feel SO difficult. This is a good list! We need mom friends in our lives!
Kaitlyn, yes, we do! Hard to find mom friends sometimes. We are all so busy.
I am not a mom, but this was still interesting.
I have friends who are moms, and I always feel out of place when they talk about certain things because I cannot relate. And this post helped me understand the importance of them having other friends that have children. But i can still maintain that relationship
Joy, I hope you can still maintain a relationship with them even if they have kids. It is hard, but I think it is possible.
This post was so encouraging to me. People are really busy, it becomes hard to sustain friendships. Very informative post, thanks.
I think it really is hard to maintain friendships whether you are a mom or not. We are so busy working and going to school that we leave very little time for others. Especially now that social media has taken over. I am guessing there are quite a few lonely women out there. Thanks for your comment.
This is what I need, If only I could find some cool mums to be hanging out with. I am such an introvert and after being so isolated for four years abroad, it has really affected how I make friends which sadly leaves me with none.
Oh, I am so sorry. It really is hard to put yourself out there. Just make a small step and ask someone to do one thing. Then make small steps again. Eventually you will have a buddy. It does take a lot of time.
Such an encouraging and motivating article! Thank you for sharing all these ideas and tips! I am not a mother yet, but I can imagine being a stay home mum could become a bit isolating, so thanks for sharing your ideas for reaching out and creating a wonderful supportive community around you! xx
I think it is not just moms but women in general. We are so busy that we don’t have the time to nurture good friendships unless they are ones we have had for a very long time. Thanks for your comment.
The end of your post immediately made me start singing the Golden Girls theme with a smile and a laugh.
Developing friendships can be so scary! Outwardly I am a very social person and can talk to anyone when I first meet them. But I am terrible at developing friendships due to…just like you wrote it…fear of rejection. Although, I am not a Mom I appreciate this post so very much. I need to get out of my “uncomfortable zone” and develop more meaningful relationships.
Thank you…for being a friend!! <–did you hear me sing that to you? 🙂
Ha! Ha! Now I’m singing it. Ear worm…
I’m so glad to know there are other people out there who are like me. I just have such a hard time making that first move. I have to get out my head and do it.
I hope you will really work on it because it can be a great support.
I’m a recent mother and am constantly on the lookout for mom friends! I will definitely be trying your tips!
I hope some of my ideas will help you. It is hard to put yourself out there!
Thanks for your comment.
I don’t have many mm friends; I think a lot of this could be that I work fulltime and don’t have a lot of time. This is a great post with great tips! Thank you, I will be trying some of these out. I try to reconnect with the mums I used to be close with x
I hope you do. You will find a mom friend to be quite rewarding. Thanks for reading.
such an encouraging post all the moms out there… especially new moms ?
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Thanks. I appreciate it.
So glad you’re able to make meaningful friendships with these groups and events 🙂 My mom made most of her life-long friends through the nursery school I went to, church groups and reading club.
They are great places to find friends. So neat for her to still have them. Thanks for comment.
This post was so encouraging to me – I’m currently reading the book “mom strong” by Heidi St. John, and it has been so good. A group of mom friends all get together 2x a month to discuss it.
Book club! Yes, that’s another idea. Thanks for suggesting that one. I wish I did that.
I am part of MOPs and it is amazing! I’ve never met such other great moms. We do play dates all the time and moms night out events.
Oh, good! I’m so glad you are connected. MOPS is great!! Thanks for your comment.
This is so important! Today, people are so busy they don’t take time for friendships. It’s especially hard if you move a lot. These ideas are super flexible no matter where you go!
Thanks for your comment. That it’s true. They are flexible with any location.