Making mom friends sounds easy. That is until you throw in two kids, naps, meals, errands, laundry, and a job. Then it feels overwhelming.
I would love to tell you the friendships I developed in my early parenting years came fast and easy. They did not. They were slow, steady, and grew over time. In fact, it was hard work.
In this post, I am going to give you 17 suggestions for making mom friends. It’s okay if you are a little scared to put yourself out there. These tips should help with the jitters so you don’t feel so awkward. Just take it one step at a time.
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Why Do We Need Mom Friends?
Some of you may wonder why you need mom friends. I get that, but eventually, you may get lonely. Before you ditch the idea, consider the long term effects if you don’t put yourself out there.
You need mom friends for multiple reasons:
1. Mom friends not only give you companionship, but it is also good for your kids too. Your kids need people outside the home to play with and practice their social skills so they will be school-ready.
2, Mom friends are a great resource for parenting. I can’t tell you how many times I have learned about a great product, discipline tactics, or fun parenting ideas because I was around other moms.
3. Mom friends are important for encouragement and moral support. There is nothing like another mom to be there for you in good and bad times. No one understands more than another woman who is going through some of the same things as you.
Don’t discount finding your mom tribe. They will help you keep your sanity through some of the toughest years of your life. The truth is mom friends make your day more fun!
Why Making Mom Friends Is Hard
I already said it took a lot of time and patience when making mom friends. Those first few years were hard as a new mom because we were all tied to schedules, nap times, and family duties.
It’s difficult to get together outside of kids and develop deeper relationships. Personally, I struggled with friendships because I didn’t like to initiate things.
I had to push myself to call other women. The reason I had difficulty making mom friends was that I was scared of rejection.
After a while, I got so lonely I decided rejection was better than not trying. I kept repeating, “If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.” What pushed me to call other women was that I was going nuts trapped in the house all day with a munchkin. He was cute, but I needed a life outside of him.
If you are tired of being alone, make the first move. Call some moms and get together. You will not be sorry if you do.
Here are some other ideas on how to develop quality mom friends. Try a few of them, eventually one of these tips will be your ticket to a long friendship with another mom.
How Do I Meet Other Moms In My Area? 17 Ways to Find Your Tribe
1. Attend events in your local neighborhood. Many neighborhoods do Easter egg hunts, Christmas parties, or some other holiday celebration.
2. Go to your neighborhood park. Strike up a conversation with some of the moms. Ask to meet for a playdate at the park again, and then eventually, at your home.
3. Join a Sunday school class for young marrieds. Get to know the moms outside of class.
4. Join a prayer group with other young moms. Prayer unites friends rather quickly.
5. Take walks in your neighborhood with your kids. Stop and talk to the other families who are also playing outside.
6. Put together or attend a mom’s night out in your neighborhood. Advertise on the Nextdoor App or another social media platform.
7. Be a room mom at school.
8. Volunteer at school in the lunchroom or library where there are other moms.
9. Invite lots of kids and parents to your child’s birthday party.
10. Go to birthday parties with your kids and visit with the moms.
11. Attend a MOPS group-Mothers of Preschoolers
12. Go to sports/dance practice and wait with the other moms.
13. Have the neighborhood kids over and include the moms.
14. Host a block party.
15. Join a Bible study with other young moms. ( I recommend BSF.)
16. Join or create a babysitting club within your church group or neighborhood.
17. Volunteer at your place of worship in the pre-school or elementary age area.
How Do I Find My Mom Tribe?
When looking for your mom tribe, think about not only yourself but consider if it is a good match for your child. Don’t immediately forge into a fast and furious friendship only to find that her kids are hellions. Some moms can’t wait to find mom friends so they can leave their kids at your house. ALL. THE. TIME.
Get to know the other mom before you start swapping kids. Her parenting style may be very different than yours. It is good to watch how she disciplines her kids when she is with you. That will tell you a lot about how she is going to treat your child when you are not there.
Making mom friends is like dating. Take it slowly before you move on to the next step. You are building trust over time. You are looking for safe people who will love you and your child for who you are and not judge you. Once you do find mom friends, hold them close because they are a precious relationship worth keeping.
How are you making mom friends?
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