17 Creative Ways to Find the Best Mom Friends Ever

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Mom friends are hard to develop when you are a SAHM with little kids or at work full-time. I was so grateful to find my mom friends when my kids were young. My son was two when I met them. They have been my friends for 21 years now.

I would love to tell you the friendships I developed came fast and easy. They did not. They were slow, steady, and grew over many years. It was hard work.

In this post, I am going to give you 17 suggestions on how to develop mom friends. It’s okay if you are a little scared to put yourself out there.

Just take it one step at a time.

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Two mom friends in the kitchen who are holding tomatoes up in front of their eyes and laughting.

How Do Mom Friends Develop?

You might wonder how these mom friends developed.

I already said it took a lot of time and patience. Those first few years were hard as new moms because we were all tied to schedules, nap times, and family duties.

It was difficult to get together outside of kids and develop deeper relationships.

Personally, I struggled with friendships because I didn’t like to initiate things.

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I had to really push myself to call other women. The reason I hated calling was that I was scared of rejection.

After a while, I got so lonely I decided rejection was better than not trying. I kept repeating, “If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.” What really got me to call other women was that I was going nuts trapped in the house all day with a munchkin. He was cute, but we both needed friends.

If you are tired of being alone, make the first move. Call some moms and get together. You will not be sorry if you do.

Here are some other ideas on how to develop quality mom friends. Try a few of them, eventually one of these tips will be your ticket to a long friendship with another mom.

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17 Ways to Create the Best Mom Friends Ever

1. Attend events that include moms and kids in the neighborhood.

2. Ask to meet other moms at the park/house for a playdate.

3. Join a Sunday school class for young marrieds. 

4. Join a prayer group with other young moms.

5. Camp/vacation together with other families who have kids. 

6. Put together or attend a mom’s night out event. 

7. Be a room mom at school. 

8. Volunteer at school in the lunchroom or library where there are other moms. 

9. Invite lots of kids and parents to your child’s birthday party.

10. Go to birthday parties with your kids and visit with the moms.

11. Attend a MOPS group-Mothers of Preschoolers

12. Go to sports/dance practice and wait with the other moms.

13. Have the neighborhood kids over and include the moms. 

14. Host a block party.

15. Join a Bible study with other young moms. ( I recommend BSF.)

16. Join or create a babysitting club. 

17. Volunteer at your place of worship in the pre-school or elementary age area. 

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Benefits of Having Mom Friends

There are many benefits to having mom friends.

They are usually the first ones who show up in times of need. They send meals, pray for you, offer emotional support, help with babysitting, and many other things.

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It is worth putting yourself out there. Be patient. It takes time when you have young kids. Don’t give up.

You will see over time your quality of life is better because of the women who surround you. I urge you to think about other moms you want to be friends with this year. Maybe one or two people you want to know better. Make it your goal to call them and do something together.

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  1. Teacher Mom Talks on May 22, 2018 at 7:44 am

    These are great ideas! Thanks for sharing!

  2. Lavanda "Michelle" Williams on May 18, 2018 at 6:11 pm

    What a wonderful post! I love that you brung attention to this. When you have kids, it may be hard to think about yourself and your social life. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    • Julie Plagens on May 21, 2018 at 3:51 pm

      Thanks, Lavanda. I appreciate your comments. Social life gets put on the back burner when you have kids.

  3. Lynnette Marte on May 15, 2018 at 9:05 pm

    A few of my mommy friends have joined mom social groups where they on park playdates

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:49 pm

      I am so glad they are doing this. Thanks for your comment.

  4. Anita Mckaney on May 15, 2018 at 6:06 pm

    Great post! I started a mom’s prayer group and have made the best friends ever. These are great tips and I am a witness that God-friends are the best friends!

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:49 pm

      A mom’s prayer group is the best. Thanks for the comment.

  5. Jen @ Jenron Designs on May 15, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    Making good friends is so important as a mother, I mean I always hear it takes a village. Besides who else would better understand what you are going through than someone going through it with you.

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:50 pm

      Only another mom can really understand. Thanks for your comment.

  6. Ruth I. on May 15, 2018 at 1:20 pm

    You are blessed to have them! I am not a mom yet but I thought about it before as I am an introvert, it will be a bit difficult for me. These are great tips!

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:51 pm

      Actually, I am an introvert, too. It is a little hard to put yourself out there, but it is good to do. Thanks for the comment.

  7. Angela on May 15, 2018 at 12:26 pm

    These are great tips. I am often the youngest of the moms so I’m still trying to get acquainted but I will try these out! Thanks

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:52 pm

      I hope one of these solutions will help you. Thanks for your comment.

  8. David Elliott on May 15, 2018 at 12:17 pm

    I can imagine how difficult it would be to be left with your child all day every day and have no connection to the outside world. I would have loved to have provided a respite for my ex. She never seemed to want it. I think that was a problem but it doesn’t matter at this point. These are good reasons to still have connections post having a child.

    • Julie Plagens on May 26, 2018 at 10:53 pm

      I am so sorry. I wish things had worked out. It is hard being at home all day without a reprieve. Thanks for your comment.

  9. Leo T. Ly on May 15, 2018 at 6:43 am

    My wife met some of her mommy friends when she had our first child through a Facebook group in our neighbourhood. She still hangs out with them till now. These are some of the strongest bonds that she has with her friends.

    • Julie Plagens on May 15, 2018 at 7:17 am

      That is so good to hear. Facebook is an awesome way to connect. I am so glad someone created a neighborhood group. How clever!

  10. Rosey on May 14, 2018 at 11:46 pm

    It’s nice to have a mom posse. I love the suggestion of the Bible group.

    • Julie Plagens on May 15, 2018 at 7:17 am

      Rosey, this is where all of my friends have come from. Nothing like spiritual things to connect each other. Thanks for reading.

  11. jessica on May 14, 2018 at 8:34 pm

    This is so tough one for me. My son is 10 and I am much younger than most parents. It is very hard to connect with other parents, I shall use some of your tips to hopefully make some great mom friends. I could really use them when my husband is deployed which is often.

    • Julie Plagens on May 15, 2018 at 7:20 am

      Jessica, I am so sorry. I know it must be lonely. I have heard that military wives usually find each other and bond. I hope you can find some that don’t mind the age difference. Everyone needs a friend! Thanks for your comment.

  12. Nicole on May 14, 2018 at 6:42 pm

    Finding mom friends has been a struggle for me. With my eldest, I was really young and most of my friends didn’t have kids, so we ended up drifting apart because we had nothing in common. Now, with my twins, I’ve made lots of casual friends – we chat at school pick up and such. But, finding some deeply connected mom friends has been a really big challenge for me – maybe I can use some of your tips 🙂

    • Julie Plagens on May 15, 2018 at 7:22 am

      Nicole, I hope you can find some good friends through one of these avenues. The church is one of the best places to find them. Visiting churches might be good for your whole family. I hope you will think about it.

  13. Stacey on May 14, 2018 at 4:27 pm

    very encouraging. I’m not very social, I’m always waiting for someone to speak to me. This is a helpful list. Thank you.

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 4:36 pm

      I know how you feel. Sometimes I get kinda quiet. I push myself to speak first so I have some sort of control of the conversation.

  14. Yonca on May 14, 2018 at 8:37 am

    What a honest and helpful post! When I was in New York, I created a meet-up group and named it ‘International Mom’. My son was 7 and we had very good times with kids.

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 8:41 am

      Such a wonderful idea. Moms are creative when they want friends. Thanks for your comment

  15. Easter Babe on May 14, 2018 at 5:58 am

    These are some great tips. I think it’s very important for moms to have friends that are mom’s also. Great support group!

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:15 am

      Yes, it is. But I think women, in general, need friends. Good friends are hard to find. Thanks for your comment.

  16. Joanna on May 14, 2018 at 5:54 am

    These are great tips for making friends when you are a new mom. I don’t have children but I do have a friend who just had one and i know how she has 0 free time at the moment.

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:16 am

      It’s hard when you don’t have kids, but your best friend does. It is a big life shift. It is easy to feel replaced. I hope you will be able to maintain your friendship. Thanks for your comment.

  17. Brittany on May 13, 2018 at 10:57 pm

    These are some great tips for finding good mom friends! I will definitely save a couple of these. Thank you!!

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 4:41 pm

      Brittany, thanks for you comment. I hope it will be helpful.

  18. Kaitlyn Neath on May 13, 2018 at 6:58 pm

    Making Mom friends can feel SO difficult. This is a good list! We need mom friends in our lives!

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 4:38 pm

      Kaitlyn, yes, we do! Hard to find mom friends sometimes. We are all so busy.

  19. joy on May 13, 2018 at 4:59 pm

    I am not a mom, but this was still interesting.
    I have friends who are moms, and I always feel out of place when they talk about certain things because I cannot relate. And this post helped me understand the importance of them having other friends that have children. But i can still maintain that relationship

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 4:37 pm

      Joy, I hope you can still maintain a relationship with them even if they have kids. It is hard, but I think it is possible.

  20. Subomi Salami on May 13, 2018 at 4:34 pm

    This post was so encouraging to me. People are really busy, it becomes hard to sustain friendships. Very informative post, thanks.

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:14 am

      I think it really is hard to maintain friendships whether you are a mom or not. We are so busy working and going to school that we leave very little time for others. Especially now that social media has taken over. I am guessing there are quite a few lonely women out there. Thanks for your comment.

  21. Joan Cajic on May 13, 2018 at 3:48 pm

    This is what I need, If only I could find some cool mums to be hanging out with. I am such an introvert and after being so isolated for four years abroad, it has really affected how I make friends which sadly leaves me with none.

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:12 am

      Oh, I am so sorry. It really is hard to put yourself out there. Just make a small step and ask someone to do one thing. Then make small steps again. Eventually you will have a buddy. It does take a lot of time.

  22. Elly's Diary on May 13, 2018 at 2:02 pm

    Such an encouraging and motivating article! Thank you for sharing all these ideas and tips! I am not a mother yet, but I can imagine being a stay home mum could become a bit isolating, so thanks for sharing your ideas for reaching out and creating a wonderful supportive community around you! xx

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:11 am

      I think it is not just moms but women in general. We are so busy that we don’t have the time to nurture good friendships unless they are ones we have had for a very long time. Thanks for your comment.

  23. Laurie on May 13, 2018 at 11:49 am

    The end of your post immediately made me start singing the Golden Girls theme with a smile and a laugh.

    Developing friendships can be so scary! Outwardly I am a very social person and can talk to anyone when I first meet them. But I am terrible at developing friendships due to…just like you wrote it…fear of rejection. Although, I am not a Mom I appreciate this post so very much. I need to get out of my “uncomfortable zone” and develop more meaningful relationships.

    Thank you…for being a friend!! <–did you hear me sing that to you? 🙂

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:09 am

      Ha! Ha! Now I’m singing it. Ear worm…
      I’m so glad to know there are other people out there who are like me. I just have such a hard time making that first move. I have to get out my head and do it.
      I hope you will really work on it because it can be a great support.

  24. Ally on May 13, 2018 at 7:57 am

    I’m a recent mother and am constantly on the lookout for mom friends! I will definitely be trying your tips!

    • Julie Plagens on May 14, 2018 at 9:06 am

      I hope some of my ideas will help you. It is hard to put yourself out there!
      Thanks for your comment.

  25. Katie- Louise on May 13, 2018 at 6:17 am

    I don’t have many mm friends; I think a lot of this could be that I work fulltime and don’t have a lot of time. This is a great post with great tips! Thank you, I will be trying some of these out. I try to reconnect with the mums I used to be close with x

    • Julie Plagens on May 13, 2018 at 7:41 am

      I hope you do. You will find a mom friend to be quite rewarding. Thanks for reading.

  26. Annick on May 13, 2018 at 3:29 am

    such an encouraging post all the moms out there… especially new moms ?


  27. Angela Hoyos on May 12, 2018 at 9:12 am

    So glad you’re able to make meaningful friendships with these groups and events 🙂 My mom made most of her life-long friends through the nursery school I went to, church groups and reading club.

    • Julie Plagens on May 12, 2018 at 10:54 pm

      They are great places to find friends. So neat for her to still have them. Thanks for comment.

  28. erin on May 11, 2018 at 10:53 pm

    This post was so encouraging to me – I’m currently reading the book “mom strong” by Heidi St. John, and it has been so good. A group of mom friends all get together 2x a month to discuss it.

    • Julie Plagens on May 12, 2018 at 7:33 am

      Book club! Yes, that’s another idea. Thanks for suggesting that one. I wish I did that.

  29. Samantha on May 11, 2018 at 8:37 pm

    I am part of MOPs and it is amazing! I’ve never met such other great moms. We do play dates all the time and moms night out events.

    • Julie Plagens on May 12, 2018 at 7:32 am

      Oh, good! I’m so glad you are connected. MOPS is great!! Thanks for your comment.

  30. Marni on May 11, 2018 at 8:00 pm

    This is so important! Today, people are so busy they don’t take time for friendships. It’s especially hard if you move a lot. These ideas are super flexible no matter where you go!

    • Julie Plagens on May 12, 2018 at 7:31 am

      Thanks for your comment. That it’s true. They are flexible with any location.

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