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Making Mom Friends: 17 Creative Ways to Find Your Tribe

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Making mom friends sounds easy. That is until you throw in two kids, naps, meals, errands, laundry, and a job. Then it feels overwhelming.

I would love to tell you the friendships I developed in my early parenting years came fast and easy. They did not. They were slow, steady, and grew over time. In fact, it was hard work.

In this post, I am going to give you 17 suggestions for making mom friends. It’s okay if you are a little scared to put yourself out there. These tips should help with the jitters so you don’t feel so awkward. Just take it one step at a time.

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Why Do We Need Mom Friends?

Some of you may wonder why you need mom friends. I get that, but eventually, you may get lonely. Before you ditch the idea, consider the long term effects if you don’t put yourself out there.

You need mom friends for multiple reasons:

1.  Mom friends not only give you companionship, but it is also good for your kids too. Your kids need people outside the home to play with and practice their social skills so they will be school-ready.

2, Mom friends are a great resource for parenting. I can’t tell you how many times I have learned about a great product, discipline tactics, or fun parenting ideas because I was around other moms.

3. Mom friends are important for encouragement and moral support. There is nothing like another mom to be there for you in good and bad times. No one understands more than another woman who is going through some of the same things as you.

Don’t discount finding your mom tribe. They will help you keep your sanity through some of the toughest years of your life. The truth is mom friends make your day more fun!

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Why Making Mom Friends Is Hard

I already said it took a  lot of time and patience when making mom friends. Those first few years were hard as a new mom because we were all tied to schedules, nap times, and family duties.

It’s difficult to get together outside of kids and develop deeper relationships. Personally, I struggled with friendships because I didn’t like to initiate things.

I had to push myself to call other women. The reason I had difficulty making mom friends was that I was scared of rejection.

After a while, I got so lonely I decided rejection was better than not trying. I kept repeating, “If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.” What pushed me to call other women was that I was going nuts trapped in the house all day with a munchkin. He was cute, but I needed a life outside of him.

If you are tired of being alone, make the first move. Call some moms and get together. You will not be sorry if you do.

Here are some other ideas on how to develop quality mom friends. Try a few of them, eventually one of these tips will be your ticket to a long friendship with another mom.

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How Do I Meet Other Moms In My Area? 17 Ways to Find Your Tribe

1. Attend events in your local neighborhood. Many neighborhoods do Easter egg hunts, Christmas parties, or some other holiday celebration. 

2. Go to your neighborhood park.  Strike up a conversation with some of the moms. Ask to meet for a playdate at the park again, and then eventually, at your home. 

3. Join a Sunday school class for young marrieds. Get to know the moms outside of class. 

4. Join a prayer group with other young moms. Prayer unites friends rather quickly. 

5. Take walks in your neighborhood with your kids. Stop and talk to the other families who are also playing outside. 

6. Put together or attend a mom’s night out in your neighborhood. Advertise on the Nextdoor App or another social media platform. 

7. Be a room mom at school. 

8. Volunteer at school in the lunchroom or library where there are other moms. 

9. Invite lots of kids and parents to your child’s birthday party.

10. Go to birthday parties with your kids and visit with the moms.

11. Attend a MOPS group-Mothers of Preschoolers

12. Go to sports/dance practice and wait with the other moms.

13. Have the neighborhood kids over and include the moms. 

14. Host a block party.

15. Join a Bible study with other young moms. ( I recommend BSF.)

16. Join or create a babysitting club within your church group or neighborhood. 

17. Volunteer at your place of worship in the pre-school or elementary age area. 

How Do I Find My Mom Tribe?

When looking for your mom tribe, think about not only yourself but consider if it is a good match for your child. Don’t immediately forge into a fast and furious friendship only to find that her kids are hellions. Some moms can’t wait to find mom friends so they can leave their kids at your house. ALL. THE. TIME.

Get to know the other mom before you start swapping kids. Her parenting style may be very different than yours. It is good to watch how she disciplines her kids when she is with you. That will tell you a lot about how she is going to treat your child when you are not there.

Making mom friends is like dating. Take it slowly before you move on to the next step. You are building trust over time. You are looking for safe people who will love you and your child for who you are and not judge you. Once you do find mom friends, hold them close because they are a precious relationship worth keeping.

How are you making mom friends?

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60 thoughts on “Making Mom Friends: 17 Creative Ways to Find Your Tribe”

  1. Great post! I started a mom’s prayer group and have made the best friends ever. These are great tips and I am a witness that God-friends are the best friends!

  2. Making good friends is so important as a mother, I mean I always hear it takes a village. Besides who else would better understand what you are going through than someone going through it with you.

  3. You are blessed to have them! I am not a mom yet but I thought about it before as I am an introvert, it will be a bit difficult for me. These are great tips!

  4. I can imagine how difficult it would be to be left with your child all day every day and have no connection to the outside world. I would have loved to have provided a respite for my ex. She never seemed to want it. I think that was a problem but it doesn’t matter at this point. These are good reasons to still have connections post having a child.

  5. My wife met some of her mommy friends when she had our first child through a Facebook group in our neighbourhood. She still hangs out with them till now. These are some of the strongest bonds that she has with her friends.

  6. This is so tough one for me. My son is 10 and I am much younger than most parents. It is very hard to connect with other parents, I shall use some of your tips to hopefully make some great mom friends. I could really use them when my husband is deployed which is often.

    1. Jessica, I am so sorry. I know it must be lonely. I have heard that military wives usually find each other and bond. I hope you can find some that don’t mind the age difference. Everyone needs a friend! Thanks for your comment.

  7. Finding mom friends has been a struggle for me. With my eldest, I was really young and most of my friends didn’t have kids, so we ended up drifting apart because we had nothing in common. Now, with my twins, I’ve made lots of casual friends – we chat at school pick up and such. But, finding some deeply connected mom friends has been a really big challenge for me – maybe I can use some of your tips 🙂

    1. Nicole, I hope you can find some good friends through one of these avenues. The church is one of the best places to find them. Visiting churches might be good for your whole family. I hope you will think about it.

  8. What a honest and helpful post! When I was in New York, I created a meet-up group and named it ‘International Mom’. My son was 7 and we had very good times with kids.

  9. These are great tips for making friends when you are a new mom. I don’t have children but I do have a friend who just had one and i know how she has 0 free time at the moment.

    1. It’s hard when you don’t have kids, but your best friend does. It is a big life shift. It is easy to feel replaced. I hope you will be able to maintain your friendship. Thanks for your comment.

  10. I am not a mom, but this was still interesting.
    I have friends who are moms, and I always feel out of place when they talk about certain things because I cannot relate. And this post helped me understand the importance of them having other friends that have children. But i can still maintain that relationship

    1. I think it really is hard to maintain friendships whether you are a mom or not. We are so busy working and going to school that we leave very little time for others. Especially now that social media has taken over. I am guessing there are quite a few lonely women out there. Thanks for your comment.

  11. This is what I need, If only I could find some cool mums to be hanging out with. I am such an introvert and after being so isolated for four years abroad, it has really affected how I make friends which sadly leaves me with none.

    1. Oh, I am so sorry. It really is hard to put yourself out there. Just make a small step and ask someone to do one thing. Then make small steps again. Eventually you will have a buddy. It does take a lot of time.

  12. Such an encouraging and motivating article! Thank you for sharing all these ideas and tips! I am not a mother yet, but I can imagine being a stay home mum could become a bit isolating, so thanks for sharing your ideas for reaching out and creating a wonderful supportive community around you! xx

    1. I think it is not just moms but women in general. We are so busy that we don’t have the time to nurture good friendships unless they are ones we have had for a very long time. Thanks for your comment.

  13. The end of your post immediately made me start singing the Golden Girls theme with a smile and a laugh.

    Developing friendships can be so scary! Outwardly I am a very social person and can talk to anyone when I first meet them. But I am terrible at developing friendships due to…just like you wrote it…fear of rejection. Although, I am not a Mom I appreciate this post so very much. I need to get out of my “uncomfortable zone” and develop more meaningful relationships.

    Thank you…for being a friend!! <–did you hear me sing that to you? 🙂

    1. Ha! Ha! Now I’m singing it. Ear worm…
      I’m so glad to know there are other people out there who are like me. I just have such a hard time making that first move. I have to get out my head and do it.
      I hope you will really work on it because it can be a great support.

  14. I’m a recent mother and am constantly on the lookout for mom friends! I will definitely be trying your tips!

  15. I don’t have many mm friends; I think a lot of this could be that I work fulltime and don’t have a lot of time. This is a great post with great tips! Thank you, I will be trying some of these out. I try to reconnect with the mums I used to be close with x

  16. So glad you’re able to make meaningful friendships with these groups and events 🙂 My mom made most of her life-long friends through the nursery school I went to, church groups and reading club.

  17. This post was so encouraging to me – I’m currently reading the book “mom strong” by Heidi St. John, and it has been so good. A group of mom friends all get together 2x a month to discuss it.

  18. This is so important! Today, people are so busy they don’t take time for friendships. It’s especially hard if you move a lot. These ideas are super flexible no matter where you go!

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