Making mom friends sounds easy. That is until you throw in two kids, naps, meals, errands, laundry, etc. Some of you may even have a part-time job on top of everything. Whew! Ain’t nobody got time for all that!
This may be why you can’t make mom friends easily. The good news is I have done all the work for you. I have 19 easy ways to help you find your new best friend.
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These tips have worked for me (an introvert), so I know they will work for you too. You’ve got this. Take a deep breath and relax. Making new friends as a mom is supposed to be fun!
You don’t need to be a depressed stay-at-home mom with no friends; it’s time to push yourself. Get out there today! Your mom friend is waiting for you to call.
Why Do We Need Mom Friends?
Some of you may wonder why you need mom friends. I get that, but eventually, you may get lonely. Before you ditch the idea, consider the long-term effects if you don’t put yourself out there.
You need mom friends for multiple reasons:
1. Mom friends not only give you companionship, but it is also good for your kids too. Your kids need people outside the home to play with and practice their social skills so they will be school-ready.
2, Mom friends are a great resource for parenting. I can’t tell you how many times I have learned about a great product, discipline tactics, or fun parenting ideas because I was around other moms.
3. Mom friends are important for encouragement and moral support. There is nothing like another mom to be there for you in good and bad times. No one understands more than another woman who is going through some of the same things as you.
Don’t discount finding your mom tribe. They will help you keep your sanity through some of the toughest years of your life. The truth is mom friends make your day more fun!
Why Is It Hard Making Mom Friends?
Making mom friends is hard because typically moms are home all day tied to schedules, nap times, and family duties.
It’s difficult to get together outside of kids and develop deeper relationships. Personally, I struggled with friendships because I didn’t like to initiate things.
As a die-hard introvert, I had to push myself to call other women. Truthfully, I was scared of rejection.
After a while, I got so lonely I decided rejection was better than not trying. I kept repeating, “If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.”
If you are tired of being alone, make the first move. Start making plans with mom friends once a week. That way it is not overwhelming. And you can slowly decide if you want to continue.
How Do Stay at Home Moms Find Friends?
Here are 19 ways to help you start making mom friends. These tips are things I did when my kids were younger, and they worked.
Today, I have friends at church, in the neighborhood, at school, and in social groups. Making mom friends in different circles has been helpful with carpool, kid’s activities, spiritual support, and just being social.
If you want to meet local moms, check out these easy tips:
1. Attend events in your local neighborhood. Many neighborhoods do Easter egg hunts, Christmas parties, or some other holiday celebration. Make sure you get the phone numbers of other moms while you are there so you can call them later.
2. Go to your neighborhood park. Strike up a conversation with some of the moms. Ask to meet for a playdate at the park again, and then eventually, at your home.
3. Join a Sunday school class for young marrieds or single moms. Get to know the moms outside of class.
4. Join a prayer group with other young moms. Prayer unites friends rather quickly.
5. Take walks in your neighborhood with your kids. Stop and talk to the other families who are also playing outside.
6. Form a group. Put together a mom’s night out in your neighborhood. Advertise on the Nextdoor App or another social media platform.
7. Be a room mom at school.
8. Volunteer at school in the lunchroom or library where there are other moms.
9. Invite lots of kids and parents to your child’s birthday party. Take time to visit with them.
10. Go to birthday parties with your kids and visit with the moms.
11. Join a group. Attend a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group near you. There are other groups such as stroller walking groups, exercise groups for moms, etc.
12. Go to sports/dance practice and wait with the other moms. Talk with them. It is an easy way to develop a relationship over time without pressure.
13. Have the neighborhood kids over and include the moms.
14. Host a block party for the families in your neighborhood.
15. Join a Bible study with other young moms (I recommend BSF).
16. Join or create a babysitting club within your church group or neighborhood.
17. Volunteer at your place of worship in the pre-school or elementary age area. Meet other parents who are also volunteering.
18. Use Mom apps to connect with other moms. Yes, there are apps to make mom friends! I have not personally used this method so I would love some comments in the section below on how this has worked for you.
19. Join Facebook groups. I have one called Christian Family Living. I would love for you to join right now! It is a great way to meet other moms just like you.
Making Friends as a Parent
Making mom friends is like dating. You have to think about yourself and consider if it is a good match for your child. Don’t immediately forge into a fast and furious friendship with another mom. You may find that her child is a hellion or your kids act horribly together.
Some moms can’t wait to find other mom friends so they can leave their kids at your house ALL. THE. TIME. I’ve had that happen. It was awful!
I suggest you get to know the other mom well before you start swapping kids. Her parenting style may be very different than yours. It is good to watch how she disciplines her kids when she is with you. That will tell you a lot about how she is going to treat your child when you are not there.
Take it slowly before you move on to the next step. You are building trust over time. You are looking for safe people who will love you and your child. Once you do find mom friends, hold them close because they are a precious relationship worth keeping.
How are you making mom friends? Comment below, and tell me how the mom apps have worked for you!
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